When you become your own enemy, everything starts to go wrong. Your thoughts are like poison darts and you fall into the most voracious and ruthless self-criticism. Almost without realizing it, he builds a wall through which he surrounds himself, where it develops. dozens of defensive strategies that he believes no one can hurt him with, limiting his life to an unimaginable point.
Before we talk about enemies, let’s first ask a simple question: When was the last time we did something when we did something worse when we avoided something or defended ourselves?
- This happens to anyone who fears emotional harm and chooses to set cold distances.
- Thus losing opportunities they later regret.
- Also those who were carried away by excessive concern.
- By the doubt that comes and by the fear that invalidates.
- Discovering soon after that what they feared so much was not so much and that perhaps it would have been something fabulous if they had dared.
- To do so.
If we know these situations, then we know what it means to be invalidated, what it is to live with these prisons that limit all our steps and that somehow make negative results more likely, whether we believe it or not. , self-buttoning is a very common exercise that we should be able to master more skillfully?
“Even your worst enemy can’t hurt you as much as your own thoughts. -Buda-
Marcos began working in a new company. He is excited about his position, but at the same time he is very concerned: he fears that he will not be as competent as others expect, such is his anxiety and his need to look effective and to be very productive that he started working. overtime and be very competitive. He concentrates on the task in an almost desperate way.
All this dynamic is at the origin of two things: the first is a bad relationship with its employees, the second is that management sees in Marcos someone who does not know how to work as a team; Finally, his fear of not forging a Good Image in the company has come true.
And now, how do we get to these kinds of situations?What psychological processes lead us to this common personal drift?Believe it or not, most of us have a small battalion of fierce internal enemies that, from time to time, we give a lot of power to. They’re next.
When you become your worst enemy, a battalion of fierce opponents floods your mind to put obstacles to your personal growth.
The first internal enemy capable of making you your own enemy is doubt, however, we are not talking about the occasional doubt that sometimes allows us to make decisions with a greater perspective, we talk about the constant doubt that invalidates, does not add up and gradually imprisons us in immobility and zero reaction capacity.
To consider ourselves as our own allies requires proper internal work, focusing on a sometimes neglected being: self-love, such a task, such a subtle office requires us to be able to work in several different fields, in certain dimensions of our personal growth. We think about it next.
Imagine you have a useless sensor, a mind detector. Imagine that you learn to program this detector by giving it the following commands: you have to block out all thoughts that start with “you can’t”, “you can’t do it”. , “” is not for you “,” is better than you “to forget it?, etc.
It is essential that we further target this machine to also detect distorted thoughts of the type If you have failed in the past, is the same thing more likely to happen now?
Think about it for a moment and try to think in writing: defend yourself, describe your vision of yourself.
The brave is not someone who avoids repeating the same mistakes, the brave is someone who learns from them and allows himself to repeat the same feats to obtain the results he dreamed of, so let us try to see failures as normal and even acceptable to be able to acquire more knowledge in the future.
Last but not more importantly, let us try to take a closer stance to ourselves and, above all, more emotionally, there is no point in hurting ourselves, closing doors and windows as long as we are not without light and air. possibilities and we must feel worthy of better things. Opt for excellence and imprison fears. Remember, don’t be your own enemy.