Where you cannot be yourself, do not delay, because it is better not to stay, because to be faithful to one’s identity, values and dignity, one must be strong and courageous in decisions. It is already too complicated for others to erase our value and self-esteem, force us to integrate into spaces and dynamics that do not suit us, that make us feel negative emotions and that destroy our mood.
This reflection, with which we certainly all agree, has a curious but important element. What is it when we talk about “being yourself”, that is, what does it mean to be yourself?Strange as it may seem, many people have not yet managed to form this concept, to go to the heart of their own personality.
- Defining ourselves.
- Knowing where our limits are.
- Where our passions are.
- Having made a good reflection on everything we live.
- Being clear about what we want for ourselves.
- Are small examples of this pillar of our mental health to know who we are.
- Our essence and enjoy who we are is synonymous with well-being and vitality.
Thus, it is very common to see people who define themselves by what they do: “I am a policeman”, “I am a high school teacher”, “I am a factory worker”, “I am a family man”. . ” Now, in addition to everything we do or stop doing, there’s something else. Because people are not what are professionally dedicated, we are what we dream, what we already live, what we do not want, what to expect from life?
All this deserves to be defended and protected every day
“Real people are full of imaginary beings. ” -Graham Greene-
The thirst for authenticity appears in us every day. We want to be ourselves in every decision we make, we want harmony in each of our relationships, without having to resort to lies, without having to give in to things that we do not want to yield to. We aspire, in essence, to maintain this core where our own identity lies, and that nothing and no one will break that balance.
And yet it happens. Almost not knowing how, you stop being yourself when, at work, you end up doing tasks you don’t like and don’t identify with, stop being yourself when you say?Yes? To your partner, family or other person, when you really need to say a beautiful, resounding “no. “
Sooner or later the moment comes when we look in the mirror and, although we recognize who is on the other side, traits, gestures and details, we conclude with immense anguish that we cease to be ourselves to be what has made life. for us.
Psychologist Mark Leary, a professor at Duke University, reminds us of something very important: when a person realizes that he is not authentic, he feels great pain, that is, when we cease to be ourselves, day after day. and there is continually frustration that can even lead to a serious illness, such as depression.
When you realize that you lack authenticity, whether you like it or not, you are forced to try to find a balance between what you do and what you want to do. Between who we are and what we need in life. Therefore, one thing to consider is that being honest with yourself is not easy. It requires us to learn to make compelling and courageous decisions.
Where you can’t be yourself, don’t delay, where you can’t express yourself or prove yourself, where others try to turn off your light, your laughter and your opinions, run away. With such suffering and such magnitude? It is neither logical nor intelligent, so once we perceive this potential harm to our self-esteem and dignity, we cannot stay in the same place without thinking about what is going on.
If you want to be yourself every day, remember everything you deserve, consider your courage, learn from your past, set goals on your horizon and, most importantly, don’t put yourself in second place. You’re not a figurative character, you’re a protagonist.
We are all entitled to a full and satisfactory existence aligned with our interests and passions. We bloom every day and no one has to pick our leaves or step on us. It is therefore a question of choosing well where we will plant our roots, without forgetting that we deserve everything we dream of.