Ending a relationship should not be understood as a failure, the failure of our own emotional autonomy would occur if we tried to continue with a meaningless, unproductive and evolutionary relationship, that is, a relationship in which it is impossible to love with purity and purity. Intensity.
Because, as Frida Khalo once said, it is better not to dwell where people cannot love, and it turns out that we always use what we do not let go, what we carry weighs and what weighs on us.
- Based on this idea.
- It is essential to understand that fear and doubt are normal and that they often accompany us throughout life.
- But we must be clear that love at all costs is a form of emotional suicide.
It’s hard to know when to close steps, the truth is that relationships are often victims of the very weight that causes discomfort and that feeling of being trapped. One of the first symptoms is emotional claustrophobia: feeling suffocated in the relationship itself and feeling that you have to fly, that autonomy has been lost and that there is no point in going on like this.
Depending on how we see this situation, the emotional conflict could be resolved one way or another, it is very easy to find yourself trapped in this insignificant situation and keep running without finding a way out.
To alleviate this anguish there are no magic recipes, because we depend on the confluence of attitudes, experiences, feelings and expectations to take one step or another, each has to look at himself and say frankly what he is doing and not do to change. the situation and think about what they would like to do.
At these decisive moments, we are usually threatened by the fear of emptiness in the form of deep pain, this fear of leaving is normal, so it is essential to wonder what he wants and is willing to do, as well as the motivations of the other person in history.
If we decide to fly, we will have to consider that it is probably not yet a paradise, in fact, saying goodbye requires a lot of courage in the face of the uncertainty and pain of leaving the castle we are building, now. intending to demolish it.
It’s about limiting the pain that can be avoided, let’s talk about a partner, friendship or any kind of relationship: sometimes you have to end frustration and desanthing because they have no solution.
When we dare to say goodbye in capital letters, of those who close doors and windows, the new ones seem to say a brutal GOOD again.
Occasionally, snakes lose their skin. To get rid of your old skin, a snake chooses to pass two nearby stones that tighten your body, scratch it and help you remove this layer that no longer serves you. As usual, this step is not pleasant; in fact, it makes you suffer, but this action helps you let go of what’s already worn out to make room for the new.
When it’s our turn to change our skin and say goodbye, the new beginning can add to us in great distress, don’t forget that you will give rise to rebirth, suffering is inevitable when closing certain doors, but it means loving yourself.
It’s about seeing life differently, being brave and changing the locks, because in the end what matters is that, knowing how to evolve, allowing stability and adjusting the temperature of our lives to our needs.
Sometimes it’s worth making renovations from time to time, taking the heaviest stones out of your backpack and trying to relieve back pain, rather than subjecting you to the inertia of sticking with what’s best for you.
Once you’ve done that, don’t look at what you’ve lost, but look what’s going to happen. Remember, don’t be “almost happy. ” Don’t finish bad books. Get out of the movies if the movie isn’t good. Leave the restaurant if you don’t like the prices and the menu. Look up and look at other paths if it’s not right. Time doesn’t come back, don’t put, a price for your well-being.