It’s impossible to offer others what we don’t have. He thinks that if we can’t feel love for ourselves, it will be difficult to have a healthy relationship with others. Loving yourself is the first step in developing a foundation of trust and stability. with someone else.
To love yourself is to give you the opportunity to discover the great potential and greatness we carry. It means being honest with yourself, committing to your own well-being. In addition, loving yourself also means being aware of your own vital needs and accepting, respecting and loving you for who you are.
- When we stop judging ourselves.
- Criticizing ourselves.
- Comparing ourselves to others.
- Demanding to be different from who we are.
- We break with the preconceived notion we have of ourselves.
- That idea that conditions our lives and makes us live ignoring an important and precious one.
- Part of our being.
“A man who does not value himself cannot value anything or anyone. “- Ayn rand-
To be at peace with ourselves, we must stop demanding beyond who we really are. Having aspirations to improve in life and as people is an undeniable project that we must all do; but we cannot remain in a state of constant anxiety, in which we despise our essence.
It is positive to learn to break with the false beliefs that condition our present, it is only in the present that we can act and live fully, and even if we do not have everything we dream of having, we have the power to change things. , acting according to who we are. Fantasizing about what was the past or what will be our future only takes us away from reality. A reality that will never be the same as what we dreamed of, but at least it’s real.
Learning to love yourself is an endless journey, which will be presented in many ways. Valuing yourself in a healthy way is the first step in getting to know yourself. We must learn to think more firmly, setting aside excessive criticism and impossible perfection.
The attributions we make to ourselves condition our self-esteem. Our self-esteem will suffer if we give credit to external factors, such as luck or chance, to the goals we achieve in our lives; and give credit to the internal characteristics of failures. Because of these kinds of unfair assignments for ourselves, we have become harder to love.
“It took me a long time not to judge myself through the eyes of others. “- Sally Field-
True love is not a physical or erotic love, but to love someone, to put themselves in the place of the other. Sometimes feelings of intense desire, admiration, and emotional investment in another person make it difficult to understand love. At some point, he mistook what it means to love another person with possession or a desire to change the other person.
To love others well, we must rely on altruistic ideas and behaviors. Love for a person makes us want to contribute to the development of their skills, not what we would like them to have.
Seeking our happiness and feeling good about yourself is not being selfish, but it is the most necessary and important condition to be able to establish a positive relationship with others, over time we realize that we cannot blame others for not being as we would like. , and this is where the journey begins to wish others good luck.
If you want true love, first learn to pass it on to yourself.