Perhaps someone very close to you knows very well how special you are and the light you shine, however, does not always take care of you as you deserve, you may think that you are like a beautiful tree with deep roots that feeds, takes refuge and never complains. Maybe what you don’t know is that one day you might be tired of someone who takes love for granted.
We all heard the classic chorus “I didn’t know what I had until I lost it. “However, reality shows us a different version, much more real, much more contradictory and according to the times: there are people who, although knowing very well what they carry with them, end up neglecting.
- “I don’t want a heartbreaked love in half.
- I deserve something complete.
- Intense and indestructible.
- ?-Frida Khalo-.
Sometimes relationships, like bones, break. We all know this, however, this rupture does not always take place overnight in an ad hoc, traumatic and devastating way, the relationshipists know that these processes are slow and exhausting, and it is precisely this gradual lack of attention to the other that ends up. having settled in the personal and emotional world of its protagonists.
Cultivating an attitude of appreciation, an empathetic and detailed attitude on a day-to-day life will allow us to strengthen these bonds with the people we love in a healthier way, yet it takes a strategic and decisive dimension to achieve it: will.
You are not like a rock that one day detaches from a mountain and gets trapped in a smooth cavity for decades, you are not an insect trapped in amber, nor are you the millennial roots of a conifer, nothing in you is eternal or eternal. People are like the wind, they are a breeze and they are like water flowing into the river. Life is movement, growth and eternal development.
Just as our own inner being is dynamic and inscribed in a process of constant maturation, so are our emotions, so those who understand love as a stable and permanent dimension are wrong, love is always hungry: it needs food and nutrition. he needs to be valued and cared for, he aspires to be tickled, to listen to the music of laughter and get drunk with wordless complicity.
All this forces us to understand something very simple, something very basic and illustrative: that love, without being found, is built, therefore, when people start to take things for granted, what they really choose is to stop investing, stop building and focus on the old-fashioned idea that those who love will always do so in a dedicated and unconditional way , the voids will not matter, the silences, the contempt will not matter, because for many love is like this resin that keeps insects forever.
Irrevocable and eternal love, more than a truth, is an apology to our society. “Will I ever love you forever, no matter what you do?It’s an attack on our own dignity. Because in relationships, not everything is worth it and not everything is justified, and if we get used to being “taken for granted”, the day will come when we too will take it for granted and assume our own misfortune.
He thinks the relationship we need most is the one we have with ourselves. This philosopher’s stone of human well-being is often overlooked for a very simple reason: sometimes we understand life from the connections we make with others. To think that love justifies everything and that it is at the same time our source of self-realization is crazy with serious side effects.
“Love will last as long as you take care of it and you will take care of it for as long as you want.
Who knows what he has and doesn’t care, he just doesn’t deserve us. Realizing this is a moral necessity, a sense of survival, and the lifeboat of our self-worth. Because otherwise, if we do not jump from this ship adrift, we ourselves will stop taking care of ourselves, we will be victims of this cult of sentimental sacrifice that destroys lives, that attacks those hearts that forgot to love each other.
On the other hand, it is worth remembering what Abraham Maslow once said: “If the musician wants to be happy, he needs to make music, if the poet wants to be a poet, he needs to write, if the painter likes to paint. “, do you need to paint?” All this shapes this dimension where the pyramid of our needs culminates: self-realization ?.
If we understand this, we will also understand the following: if someone loves us, they will have a natural need to make us happy, to enhance our strengths, to offer us that impulse of life with which we will also contribute to the growth of our own romantic relationship.
But if those next to us do not consider us and assume that we will always be there, no matter what happens, they contribute to repression, and repression, never forget, is the root of unhappiness. The right way, to put into practice this true and loyal commitment to ourselves to remind us that to love is to care for and that to love is devotion, appreciation and daily attention to the emotional bond.
Images courtesy of Maggie Taylor.