Think about it, is it or not?
When something didn’t happen the way we wanted it or someone didn’t respond as expected, when someone’s behavior bothers us or what they say bothers us, we usually express what we feel with expressions like, “Have you bothered me?Anger?,? you me off?
- If we stop to think about this and decide to go further.
- Translating our messages becomes something like?Are you responsible for how I feel ?.
- ? are you responsible for how I feel like this?Or “Did you hurt me?” I mean.
- I’m bad because of you.
If someone makes us angry it’s because we give them permission to do it, because actually, when someone does it to us like that, what resonates internally in our minds is something like that?Important as I think of me ?. Think.
In these cases, the responsibility for what we feel is directed towards others, it is not ours, depending on the others, that is how we will find ourselves.
It turns out that instead of managing our emotions and feelings ourselves, taking them in and taking responsibility for what we feel, we give power or consent to others, because no one can us off without letting that happen, right?
And is it true that carrying all the weight of anger or boredom is very complicated, but if we’re used to focusing on others, is it even easier to blame the couple, who should try to handle our anger instead of ourselves?But then we’ll never connect with our interior.
Sometimes it happens because our ego moves us, which, in short, consists of identifying ourselves with what we have, what we do and the value that others give us.
Once we move away from the ego and set it aside, we begin to take more responsibility, both for our thoughts and behaviors and for our emotions, and no one can harm us; because we believe that who we are goes far beyond the material goods, our actions or the opinions of others.
Then we can help ourselves by thinking that when someone insults us or does something that we don’t like it is as if they are giving us a gift, if we do not accept it the gift will remain the person, where while if we accept it, we will shelter it, in the latter case the decision will be ours.
Thus, the insults, provocations or even the actions of others, are like these gifts, which we have the opportunity to accept or not; so we can’t blame anyone for our decisions, we can only take responsibility for our attitudes and choices.
In addition, we must keep in mind that the clash of expectations that we create in relation to reality can also be the cause of our anger, because things do not always go as we would like.
We can’t control the circumstances and not even the people, but we can control our response, so we can’t change what someone says about us, or what they do and makes us angry, but we can change the attitude we’re dealing with. Life.
Responsibility is scary, but that’s what allows us to own our lives
Recognizing our emotions and feelings and taking responsibility gives us the freedom to know ourselves and choose our attitude to life.
? Recognize that it is I who chooses? And that it is I who determines the value that an experience has for me?Is it something that enriches, but also causes fear?.
? Carl Rogers?