587 kilometers, 27 days and 17 cities of pure physical reality separate us, but as Julio Cortzar said, what a person loves is always close and we are closer than ever, we are the best evidence that relationships are gradual, constant and with much more. effort if there is distance.
That is, do you know that feeling of being away and away from your loved ones for a long time and coming back as if everything had changed except your relationship? This is what happens to us: we are always close even when we are far away. far, because we do not let ourselves forget.
- For a variety of reasons.
- It’s not uncommon to have to separate for a while from someone you love: moving to another city.
- Looking for work elsewhere.
- Having a family waiting for us in another country.
- Etc.
“I can tell you that, for me, any place is my home if it is you who opens the door.
Elvira Sastre
The biggest concerns that arise before we leave are what will happen to our own feelings and those we have left behind: will they forget me, will our relationship change?Can we handle that? These are very common questions, are these people we leave behind our home?And it’s expensive to think they’re somehow left behind.
However, when we reached our destination, we realized that what we had called a ‘home’ comes with us and continues to embrace us, we still consider our home because we take it into what we do, what we are and what to think: it is part of our essence, which is enriched with new people, but let us not forget what we already have.
The complicities that have been established before leaving are responsible for the success of separation and return time: it is said that the bonds that exceed the distances are stronger, but they must be before that to overcome the barriers of location.
Certainly effort is easier when we truly love, because then only the will to stay is predisposed: the beloved is always close because we know what it means for our lives and we do not want to lose it for anything in the world.
At the time of reunion, it seems that the world we leave behind has evolved without us: people have evolved in their lives and now you have the job of knowing how to join again. If complicity has been maintained, you will soon. Notice that relationships haven’t changed and that in no time you’ll be able to draw a line between what it was and what it will be.
Separations lead, to a greater or lesser extent, to different levels of suffering, because the distance from others is complicated, even for a short time: goodbyes are often difficult for most people, even if they are not. ‘they’re temporary.
However, Neruda asks us the question of this subtitle: who suffers the most who is waiting for someone or who has no one to wait for, that is, it hurts to feel alone and not be able to embrace those who are far away. hurts the distance of those who are close and comforts us the closeness of those who are far away.
Whatever your answer to this question, the most beneficial thing seems to be learning to appreciate the independence that we are allowed: those who love us will always be around and will return more eager than ever to be with us. On the other hand, if we do not wait for anyone, our main task will be to cultivate self-love.
“Sometimes it only takes 56 seconds of wireless conversation to brighten someone’s day from miles away. And we all have 56 seconds off. “
-Carlos Miguel Cortés-