On a general level, we generally expect events to unfold the way we want them to. We create expectations of what things should be like and how others should be with us.
So we hope that someone will react wisely to something that bothers us, we also hope it doesn’t rain the day we plan an excursion, how many times has anyone let us down?
So what’s the secret to not suffering? Don’t expect anything because whoever expects nothing loses.
Although this seems a little disheartening, not expecting anything, that is, not generating expectations, implies great power, it is easy to make the mistake of thinking that it is simply to lie on the couch watching life go by, in no way. It’s a little more active and dynamic than all this.
It’s about working the mind not to create false hopes or misconcept ideas, but why is it so important?For those who expect nothing, it’s free to find disappointment. Let’s go more on this topic!
How can you not expect something?Is it possible to live without expectations?
The secret is in the concept of attachment. When we focus on an idea, we’re much more likely to suffer if that idea doesn’t materialize. So what to do?
The goal is to let go of a specific result, for example, if we expect someone to do something for us and we don’t, we suffer, in this way, if we are open to the possibility that what we hope or not or may not happen, we will consider both options.
Buddhism states that we all seek to be happy, but many have made mistakes on the road to this state. By pursuing our happiness, we can hurt others, with greater or lesser intent.
Buddhism prepares us to accept that someone will fail us, to accept that our plans do not go as we wish, and to accept that our expectations eventually fade. Are your teachings so profound that acceptance does not happen?Something we hope isn’t a drama, but a release.
This liberation means taking the reins of our happiness and not leaving it in the hands of external events. Those who expect nothing from one event or any other, have it all; that is, consider all possible options.
If our friend lives up to our expectations, it will be a joy, otherwise it was something that was in our plans, so it won’t be such a dramatic event. Besides, have we also failed at some point in our lives?
Free yourself from the suffering caused by mental stiffness. Life, destiny, existence? Or what do we want to call it? It won’t always happen the way we want it to.
A lot of people say things like, are things always bad for me?Or “I’m always disappointed everywhere. ” However, how many times have we expected anything from someone who has never happened?Even in our day-to-day life we hear phrases of regret about anything that doesn’t work properly.
The question is, how do you learn to accept this?works, but not as we’d like. When there is a gap between what it should be and what it is, suffering occurs.
“The heat, the cold, the rain, the wind, the diseases, being trapped, wounded?That would only make the situation worse?
Others may disappoint us, but surely it will not be so painful; We can also take advantage of these disappointments. On the one hand, we can learn to accept others without projecting on them how we want them to be, and on the other hand, if we really see that your attitude hurts us, maybe it’s better to let it go.
Lama Rinchen, a Buddhist teacher, says that “there are more opportunities for things to happen because we don’t want to do what we expect. “In this way, it invites us to think if we really have so much power to think that we can control everything that happens around us.
Rinchen addresses the idea that anything is possible, but more than that, it invites us to adopt this vision as ours, if anything is possible we will be more willing to accept that the unexpected can happen.
“We are victims of our own mental afflictions, enemies of peace and serenity. These afflictions? Attachment, hate, pride, greed, etc. ? They are mental states that provoke in us behaviors that provoke all our misfortunes and sufferings. [?] Do most of the problems we suffer, which we ultimately create, ultimately come from these negative emotions?. – Dalai Lama-
For those who expect nothing, all options are possible, in this way we are open to what can happen, projecting an idea or hope for the future can be good to give us energy, as long as we are aware that things will not always be going as we want.
A fundamental aspect to stop suffering for our own expectations is to allow the mind to rest. As Zen Buddhist master Thich Nhat Hanh says: “We must learn the art of rest, allowing the body and mind to relax. If we have wounds in the body or mind, should we rest so that they can heal?