When your partner breaks the relationship, you feel like you’ve left that person something you won’t recover from; When a family member or friend dies, you feel like nothing will ever be the same again because you’ve missed something very important. Anyone who gives up completely will never come back full.
If you really loved someone, you know that when that person is no longer in your life, take part in you, a little piece of your heart disappears forever, and doesn’t come back, it’s a sense of emptiness that only time helps fill.
- We are emotional beings by nature.
- And it is very difficult to prevent a complicated situation from causing emotion.
- However.
- It is possible to manage this emotion in terms of duration and intensity through emotional intelligence.
“Love is a step, farewell is another step, and both must be firm. Nothing is eternal in life. -Chavela Vargas-
An emotionally intelligent person knows his strengths and abilities and has learned to listen and understand others with empathy, so even though he feels sad about loss, he has confidence in the future and knows that over time everything will be overcome.
When a loved one dies, we can only accept that loss, when there is a separation of partner, although it is a different situation, it is also important to accept the situation, be realistic and look for ways to manage the situation. emotion that invades us.
In your relationships with friends, family or partner, there must be a “surrender limit” to avoid situations of emotional attachment. Walter Riso, in his book “Detachment without anesthesia”, argues that creating an addictive relationship means abandoning the soul in exchange for false pleasure and security.
Laughter defines attachment as an obsessive relationship with an object, an idea or a person based on four false beliefs, which are: it is permanent, it will make you happy, it will bring you security and it will give meaning to your life.
“The root of all suffering is attachment. – Walter laughs
If you live in such a relationship, you will never be prepared for loss and you will not accept that the other person leaves, the relationship ends or the situation changes, the loss will make you feel empty and without objective direction in life.
Attachment corrupts, makes you unhappy and prevents you from having respect for yourself and your values, you fear the loss of your partner and you lose joy because you have invested all your resources and energies in someone else, setting aside your life and what I really love to do.
Throughout your life, your ability to give and be generous is part of who you are as a human being, yet we must also learn to manage the tools needed to manage these losses with integrity and accept that change is part of life.
Saying goodbye to a person, a job, a relationship is a situation that we face in our day to day and we must face these moments with courage and intelligence, skill necessary to avoid excessive suffering or a sense of loss that negatively affects us.
? I agree. This isn’t resignation, but nothing makes you lose more energy than resisting and fighting for a situation that can’t change?. – Dalai Lama-
Let the pain go; there are still many people who are ashamed to cry in public and suppress their feelings and words. To let go, however, it is important to let go, cry everything you need, but without isolating yourself. Talk to your friends, tell them how you feel and listen to their advice.
Focus on yourself. At least once in your life, be a little selfish and take the time to look inside yourself without feeling guilty. What do you want to do? Think about your needs and what really matters to you. Let’s go there or this situation will make you feel more confident and safe.
Take care of yourself and do what you love, if you want to make a trip, now is the right time, this way you will see the situation from a different angle, you will be able to disconnect and see things in another way, think that new situations always bring new things and that we always gain something: freedom, learning, ability to overcome, etc.