Whoever loves you won’t dare put metal fences on their horizons, no one will tell you that you can’t, you don’t know, you don’t deserve it, whoever you really like will make you believe in yourself. Put wings in your dreams, magic in your pockets and nourish your gray days with renewed hope so you remember everything you’re capable of.
We are aware that one of the most important values to achieve desired psychological realization is to be able to believe in ourselves, however no one can give birth to a beautiful flower if the seed has not yet taken root. we were told, for example, that we are disgusting or unskilled, so this growth will not be harmonious: what will germinate will be our limiting beliefs.
- In much of the vast self-help literature we currently have about developing self-confidence.
- There is one fact that we often overlook: we are encouraged to believe in ourselves despite the difficulties.
- Despite antagonistic voices.
- Which puts our esteem at odds However.
- To make this leap of strength.
- First we must make a complete inner journey.
- For which we are not always prepared.
To believe in ourselves, we must first deactivate many minefields created not only in childhood. Throughout our lives as students, or even in our emotional relationships, we experience frustrating dynamics that may have profoundly affected our self-image, our self-esteem.
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We’ll start by describing what we call “power figures” in the book?Discover your passion for educator Sir Ken Robinson, tells us a very special case, that of Gillian, this eight-year-old girl was a clear example of school failure, her parents and even her teachers did not bet much on her future. She was very slow, very irresponsible, distracted, completely disconnected from the world.
His life was doomed to total failure. It was the 1930s, however, everything changed when a psychologist decided to do some tests to discover something curious: the girl was very receptive to music, left her alone in class and realized that the little girl needed to “dance to think”. Gillian had a dancer inside. So much so that Gillian Lynne is one of the most important dancers in our history.
A good mother and a good father will make her child believe that she is able to do whatever she wants, that she deserves to make her dreams come true and that she is as worthy as anyone to achieve it, yet it will be of no use if, when that child enters the school world, another figure of authority, such as that of a teacher, or even the educational system itself , instead of trying to encourage and guide him, they just make him believe he’s not “fit. “What to bring?4? It makes this child a little more than a marginal life.
Have many people lived for a while? Negatively programmed through this emotional conditioning exercised by their parents, peers and even their partners. These limiting beliefs are installed in our brains as if they were “Trojan horses”, reformulating ideas, erasing desires, hopes, cutting dreams and installing fears and insecurities.
Many psychologists talk about the need to “go back to the source. “Remove one by one all layers, scabs and scars badly closed to reach that number that dared to have more power than us at one point, to make us believe that we were not valid. That we don’t deserve to take charge of our happiness. Because sometimes the banal formula of “Am I going to tell me how much I’m worth and how much I love myself to change my perception?”it doesn’t always work.
This inner journey towards healing will always be appropriate. If we take away the authority of the professor who told us we’d never go anywhere. From the father who almost always told us that “you are clumsy”, or the couple always determined to highlight our failures to highlight their virtues.
Moreover, in addition to this delicate process of knocking down our limiting beliefs one by one, it is essential to surround yourself with valuable people, few things can be more comforting than having someone who believes in us, even when we no longer believe. Someone who puts firmness in our doubts, encouragement in our hopes and courage in our dry branches.
If you already have one or more people of this particular race, thank them from time to time “Thank you for believing in me”.
Images courtesy of Pascal Campion.