“Tomorrow I start over,” “It’s over!” “Today I’m going to say goodbye to all this food!?,” never again!”Can’t I go on like this!” Fat change, have you increased the size of my clothes, has it?Do you recognize these lines? These are phrases you can repeat every day because you think your obesity is yours and your fault.
You think you’re solely responsible for your body. It is evaluated solely by your body image. He is frustrated because his other attributes are not sufficiently recognized by others.
- You may think you’re a worse person because you have a body that society doesn’t accept.
- You know you need to change because new health problems arise or because a health care professional warns you that you are about to show up.
Anyway, there are millions of reasons that can push you to change your body.
One day, out of desperation to change, all these reasons appear quickly and disorganized in his head. Right now, you feel bad, you wonder why you haven’t done anything before and you point it out yourself with your finger.
Basically, you think you’re responsible for being made to think that change is easy and that you just need to have “willpower. “
This desperation means that you can no longer take your body and, from the enormous responsibility you feel, you decide that you need immediate change.
Hence the need for a method that meets two obligations: to punish it for not implementing it in advance and to achieve spectacular results in the short term. The worst part is that these methods exist.
There are people who believe in such weight loss programs and promote them as a necessary and healthy option.
These people say that you have to be strong to be able to withstand a method based on excessive sacrifices: low-calorie diets, intense physical exercise, absolute self-control and a huge list of etc. that you sure know.
The discomfort you feel for the body you live in is very great, you are desperate and you have immersed yourself in a process whose difficulty makes you feel unbearable, unbearable dissatisfaction. You can’t take it anymore. That’s impossible.
The desperation to end the pressure makes the process of change more rigid. The process is so difficult that discomfort extends beyond physical sensations.
Added to this is the fact that your self-esteem has gradually eroded, without you nodding, looking at yourself and despised yourself, you no longer feel bad only with your body, but also with your mind. You know why?
You must feel good. It’s getting harder and harder to bear the discomfort, and then, at that point, you end up giving up, you end up eating everything you haven’t eaten in the last few days, with anxiety, discomfort and sadness.
This is called compulsion and, although it is not physically healthy, manages to relieve and calm it mentally for a few moments.
Coercion has managed to erase the anxiety caused by an unbearable process of change. The cycle will begin again: pressure, despair, over-control, dissatisfaction, compulsion and guilt.
Unfortunately the relief was brief and now you feel guilty, guilty of not being able to do the right thing, get a beautiful body and eliminate any pressure and dissatisfaction you have, as if you were responsible for all this.
The cycle will start again. You will feel pressured, very motivated by change, to adopt an unsustainable method again. You can’t stand it. He will resort to coercion again to alleviate this state of brutal dissatisfaction. And again, guilt. And you will start again, always, only in your opinion, you will reach ever deeper places.
They have led him to believe that the fault of his overweight or obesity is his, he feels so responsible that the pressure is brutal, this has led him to apply totally unsustainable methods that have only made the situation worse.
Then the solution begins by breaking the cycle. The solution is to get carried away and make a fair and realistic reflection, it must be concluded that coming back does not mean going back to the beginning, and that it is possible to lose, but not everything won.
It is necessary to generate a critical mind that gives you back the reins of your life and your decisions. An attitude independent of mass thinking.
Breaking the cycle of guilt necessarily involves removing pressure, for this it will be essential to create a realistic message about yourself, about your responsibility to your body, about its shape and relevance to the rest of your life.
At the same time, it will be essential to generate a critical mind with society that discards certain poisonous temptations for its inner dialogue.
In addition, you must be able to value yourself beyond your body or what you don’t like, you have to understand that as you are enough, so your plan will not be counterproductive if it is not done.
With peace of mind, you will be able to enter a process of loving, healthy, progressive and lasting change. A complete model that, in addition to teaching you how to eat, should work in other areas that help you feel better.
You will have eliminated pressure, despair and dissatisfaction. You won’t need to use food as your only source of well-being, and if necessary, you’ll be able to do it without guilt because you’ll know that “Eating to eat” sometimes has a protective effect that makes sense.
The constraint will no longer have space. The guilt will disappear, the vicious circle will disappear.
The responsibility for your obesity lies with the person who made you feel this and everything it has generated.