The grudge is an emotion that does not allow us to forget a situation that has occurred and for which we feel wounded or injured, it is because of this pain that we try to make, in some way, the pain that they have caused us, waiting for the best time for it. Over time, the grudge only worries us.
The grudge is, in fact, an unresolved emotion, because of a situation that has hurt us and that we do not face, but which we will remain silent and keep, thus prolonging indefinitely our discomfort.
- The resentment remains and.
- With it.
- The suffering.
- Because there is a resentment in us that does not allow us to resolve the situation and thus we keep our memories of the pain.
Resentment is the antechamber of resentment. It is an emotion of pain, irritation and anger, in the face of a living situation or a person who has hurt us.
Keeping a grudge means not forgetting what happened and, therefore, staying in pain, irritation and anger, as if it were all just happening.
Resentment prevents us from living the present, because we always carry the weight of what happened, as well as the presence of the emotions generated.
Resentment is a burden that cannot be moved forward, because there is a blockage to resolve, which will prevent us from looking to the future, that feeling will make us avoid present situations, due to the memory and pain compared to what happened in the past , that is, it prevents us from enjoying the present moment.
The grudge does not allow us to “turn the page” because she waits for the time to pay for her pain.
Therefore, the resentful person’s attitudes will aim to restore their balance, making the “guilty” pay for their pain. It is an emotion that promotes shame, hostility, aggression and hatred towards the person responsible for suffering or sense damage.
It is important to be aware that the only person who suffers from what happened is resentment itself, and that both resentment and resentment only prolong suffering, without it being resolved.
The reality is that time takes us away from this situation and the person involved in it, but chances are we’ll never fully resolve our grudge.
Even if there was a possibility of revenge, it would never be the solution to so much accumulated discomfort, because the consequences or subsequent conflict to do the damage will never make us feel good. Remember: other people’s pain has never sootheed our own pain. .
Therefore, revenge is not the way to our suffering
First, the most practical thing would be to resolve the situation when it presents, express themselves and feel respected at the right time, so we would not feel resentment, because we would have faced the situation and, therefore, there will be no grudges or everything it causes.
If we are already living with resentment and resentment, the way to get rid of it is to accept what happened and respect the person with which we are living the painful situation.
After this work of acceptance and respect, we would only have to decide what relationship we would have with that person, since respect does not mean sharing the way we do things and, therefore, we do not have to go back to a situation similar to that you experienced before.
With this, we will feel the liberation of suffering and the unnecessary discharge of weight, which will allow us to live the present in a lighter and happier way.