It’s not uncommon to look back and realize that there was a time in our lives when we weren’t conformists, we dreamed of getting far, we wanted to make our lives memorable, but something happened and, at some point, we changed course.
We become conformists for several reasons: dependence on others, low self-esteem, lack of motivation or fear of something? One or more of these factors limits our personal growth and development and prevents us from exceeding the “fair and necessary” mark.
- Everyone.
- In fact.
- Can assume life as they see fit and we can say that this is where everything happens.
- Some will do little.
- Some will do much.
- And others will only do what is necessary to live life in peace.
- Without getting too far.
- Involved in any major issue.
“Case after case, we see that conformism is the simplest way”?Noam Chomsky
Is adding value in any aspect of life (i. e. , doing more out of the desire to be better) what makes the difference. Because this added value, this plus, in addition to acting as a modifier of the environment, to print its own imprint of its existence, is also what defines the destiny of each one: its scope and its limits.
Being conformist is strictly related to the level of interest and demand that we apply, only those who strive to achieve the highest goals can build a life that flourishes at every stage, however, doing only what is strictly necessary is simply giving to the best of our existence.
Of course, we often do not give ourselves the opportunity, in the present, to try to answer a simple and enigmatic question: how far can we go?What is at the heart of this attitude is, above all, the lack of self-confidence and the fear of being able to make a difference. Something that translates into laziness or disinterest, thus shaping the foundation on which a life is built “without salt or sugar”.
Of course, it’s not about doing more than you should either. Sometimes, when you try to do more, you end up doing less. As the old saying goes, “Anyone who accepts very little pressure. “It is a question of putting a touch of excellence in everything we do in the day to day, however small, it is a matter of valuing our actions, because in each of them we mark our walk around the world.
There are people who are reluctant to grow up. They know that continuing to act like children is something that has great limitations, but also many benefits, one is that they never have to face the anguish of making decisions, solving problems or taking responsibility for their mistakes.
It doesn’t matter if a person is older: sometimes he continues to behave like a child, one of the aspects in which it is most reflected is the attitude of ‘letting others do’, these people let others take the reins of all uncomfortable or compromising situations. They don’t want to be responsible: that’s what others are for.
Evidently, living according to what others do makes us resigned people and can make us nullify our capabilities and our potential, which will only reappear when life faces demanding situations.
The curious thing is that the more responsibilities and risks of life are deleed in others, the more internal mistrust of what one is able to do or not, which ends up creating a vicious circle. The bad thing about letting others do it is that it can also end up abandoning the most intense and constructive emotions and experiences of our lives.
When we have low self-esteem or low levels of motivation, we tend to fall into conformism, on the one hand, because we do not believe that we can do a certain thing, and on the other, because we do not have that impulse or energy that is necessary and even indispensable to carry out or continue a project.
An example that works very well are children, many people, by acquiring responsibility for having people who depend on them, also acquire a motivation that forces them to create and build, it is precisely at this moment that they cease to be conformists, at least in this sense. Sometimes, too, a limit situation becomes a motivation: she knows that if she does nothing, she will sink. That’s why important crosses don’t always have negative consequences.
Therefore, self-esteem and motivation go hand in hand and can be fundamental to anyone’s level of fulfillment. Someone who does not believe in himself or who does not have that extra impulse to do and create will surely lack courage or courage. to achieve goals beyond what is strictly necessary.