What’s the point of examining our lives a few days before the end of the year?The goal is not to feel nostalgic. It is time to ask ourselves whether the life we lead is the life we have set ourselves, some will be satisfied, but others will feel a disconcerting void, despite significant achievements.
Do we want to repeat the experiences you leave us this year?
- For people who are dissatisfied with what they have achieved.
- Whether by health.
- Economic.
- Family or relational crises.
- I invite you to ask yourself what has led you down this path.
- Do you have a clear vision of your destiny or what you want?for yourself This is the goal of designing a life project.
- It allows us to take stock of the steps that.
- If followed.
- Would lead us to the goal that we set at the beginning of the year.
- A step or a transformation.
To do this it is necessary to be aware of who we are. What are personal talents, such as independence, creativity, patience, among many others. Each person has a potential that has enabled them to achieve their achievements. What are you?
Some people, looking back, abandon a system of life that has stopped working, face a divorce, leave a job, a delicate illness or the absence of a deceased loved one, all these situations create anxiety because they take the person out of their life. comfort zone, it is easy to get used to people, situations or places if we do not generate changes in life.
However, for others, this year reminds them that they have had an abusive relationship for a long time. And they’ll say, “I never wanted to live like this,” “I don’t have a choice anymore. For those people who in those relationships, it is important that they know: To change something that you do not like, you need to know who you are, what you can count on, what skills you have, in a nut words, what are these qualities that make you are unique.
To organize our lives, we need to begin to recognize our value as a person, because one of the factors that prevents us from taking the next step is:
When a new year begins, we get hooked on the routine forgetting the goals set, some get excited about the gym to eliminate the weight gained by traditional Christmas meals, others go to the doctor at the beginning of the year to check their health, but most leave with good intentions the goals that were promised on December 31. And there are still people who do not see their situation: unemployment, divorce, abuse, terminal illnesses.
Everyone faces a management issue. Some seek the help of friends, spiritual leaders, lawyers, and other psychologists. Some people prefer to see the problem in others and not in themselves. Why? Because that would imply that they are responsible for the situation in which they live and therefore can change the position of victim, but fear paralyzes them to act.
It is an intensely unpleasant emotion, caused by a perception of danger, this perception comes from a thought that can be based on real or fictional situations, for example, the source of fear is different from the person who believes that when they go out on the street, they will get sick because they are exposed to bacteria, which are constantly beaten by their husband and threaten to kill them. The first fear is based on an idea produced by fantasy, while the second is based on facts.
However, most people experience different types of fears
? Fear of abandonment
? Fear of being rejected
? Fear of failure
? Fear of being alone
? Fear of being different
These fears originate from ideas or fantasies related to change, so these people are eager to please others, even if their actions cause them intense discomfort. There is also a fear of the unknown. It is based on insecurity, however, it is necessary to distinguish the effects of fear on humans.
The positive aspect of fear is when it acts as an alarm mechanism in the face of imminent danger of physical harm, allowing you to escape or act in terms of survival.
The negative side is the one that generates anxiety and paralyzes, the most effective way to deal with fear is to recognize its existence, and for this it is necessary to observe how we are facing different events and what we think when we face. feel anxiety or fear.
Because of fear based on personal insecurity, it is necessary to know a project to be carried out, an interview or a situation in which decisions need to be made, information is the key to decisions. Be realistic about performance, let yourself make mistakes, no one is perfect. To the extent that it can cover the different possible scenarios, there will be situations where complete information is not obtained that allows a correct decision.
In the face of fear it is normal for concerns and questions to arise, so you must weigh the pros and cons of the answer choices you have for the event in question, so it is not brave to say that you do not feel afraid or uneasy, but recognize their existence and learn to face it.
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