This is more common than we think. Many people, for example, when they suffer a personal loss, cannot cry, to release their pain with tears, as is normal to expect. Crying is part of grief and is critical to overcoming misfortune and trauma. Physiological relief with which tensions and tensions can be eliminated.
It is often said that those who cannot cry have trouble managing their emotions, the truth is that we cannot establish this principle as a conclusion, it is only one part of the many reasons for this very common fact.
- It is not a problem.
- But part of a process.
- Because tears and relief will come at some point.
- It may be later than usual.
- But it will happen.
- And when that is the case.
- The person will feel much better.
Well, let’s start with something we need to keep in mind to avoid situations, sometimes there can be some kind of physical problem, we know that the need to cry is part of emotional relief, as well as a way to channel stress and tension.
But there are people who can’t cry because of an illness, an autoimmune disease. It’s not that they suppress their feelings in any way, it’s a physiological problem.
An autoimmune disease in which there is a sequence of tears, where it is almost impossible to filter the tears. A reality known as ‘Sjogren’s syndrome’.
However, leaving aside the possibility of this disease, the vast majority of people have already experienced this situation at some point in their lives, a reality that can happen in several ways, let’s see:
We must be clear that not all people are the same and do not treat problems in the same way. In addition, each situation can be unique and people can react differently. We can cry normally at the loss of a loved one, yet we are unable to shed a tear when, for example, we are abandoned by our partner.
How can this happen? It all depends on how we face the problem, we accept the loss of the father, we know that we will never see him again, we feel this pain and we translate it into tears.
However, in the face of abandonment or even betrayal, we can treat experience in another way: first, we can feel misunderstood, so that we can hope that the person will repent and return; later, anger may arise.
These are steps in which tears did not come because they were not yet necessary, but then anguish and sadness will appear, that is when the crying and the need for help will come, what conclusion do we draw from this?These tears, the need to cry, to have a cycle.
If we feel anxiety or uncertainty and haven’t reacted to the situation yet, tears may not flow, but it will depend on each other’s personality. More sensitive personalities often use crying as an appropriate relief mechanism. Profiles that need more self-control or rationalize all aspects of your life will take longer to feel tears.
Are tears a sign of personal weakness or weakness?No way. The fact that we cry does not mean that we are weaker or more vulnerable, sometimes they are as necessary as breathing and indispensable in any grieving process, we have to try them to feel better.
However, sometimes our education, our personal and social context can make us think that not assuming and shutting up may be better, show no weakness, shows strength. A mistake that can, over time, lead to serious health problems, unexpected injuries that can turn into internal injuries.
It’s not worth it. Tears and the need to cry are part of our personality, there are those who have some ease to let go, others simply have more difficulties.
They are part of a cycle where self-knowledge is fundamental, knowing how to identify the emotions inside you, knowing how to listen. They may not arrive when we need it most and can make us feel strange. “With all that happens to me, how is it possible that I can’t cry??
Don’t worry, tears will come in time, in the most unexpected moment, when you relax, when you’re more conscious and accept your situation, only then will tears offer you real relief.