Economic difficulties, arrival and education of a child, family policy, psychological violence, infidelity, differences of character: it is essentially the most common problems that alienate couples the most.
Once these problems and their reasons have been analyzed, it is obvious that couples distance the the the most importantly because they continually enter into an endless dynamic of unlimited or definitive discussions. Discussions and fights are necessary to reach agreements, according to different criteria, but the most serious thing is that some couples do not tolerate, do not accept, do not speak and, in short: they do not know how to argue, they focus solely on finding a culprit and reaffirming their position, causing situations surrounded by shouting, irony and destruction. , which in the long run cause frustration and discomfort that are difficult to manage in the relationship beyond overcoming.
- Repenting and asking for forgiveness is difficult when we are convinced that we are not responsible for the problem.
- But when we are the ones who feel hurt by similar situations.
- It is almost impossible to forgive.
- We can not only facilitate forgiveness with positive attitudes and good intentions.
- But we must also allow time to heal the wounds.
We need to be humble and openly apologize, while accepting that everyone makes mistakes, and so do we. We must let the weather calm down and minimize our pride, so that we can respect the time each one needs, as well as accept that people can be forgiven when the time is most opportune.
If we change the way we communicate during discussions, we will strengthen our relationship to resolve any disagreements that may occur.
A destroyed couple is the result of endless hours of discussion, where respect and affection disappear to give way to dissatisfaction and abandonment, especially the fact that they cannot accept the view of others, or the needs of the other, are the pillars of infidelities and final conditions. It is impossible to save a relationship without the presence of forgiveness.
After the time of fiery passion, intensity, a phase of stability is reached with the intention of consolidation in the near future, but it is also possible to reach a phase of heartbreak and apathy, in which discussions and the end go hand in hand. .
Perhaps if the couple paid more attention to passion, communication, dialogue, the pursuit of similar interests, intimacy, complicity in acts and shared leisure, many discussions and separations could be avoided; All this in favor of an emotional stability that varies in intensity, naturally, throughout life.