Many of you have seen the movie “The Bride on the Run” with Julia Roberts. For those who have not attended, she plays a woman who escapes every time it is time to reach the altar in her relationships. Richard Gere is a journalist who is interested in the story and discovers why she couldn’t get married: she didn’t know herself. If he dated a motorcyclist, he would get a tattoo, dress in black and like the same things as him; if she was dating a musician, she fell in love with music and adhered to her alternative lifestyle; Etc.
Of course, it’s an exaggerated version of reality, but that’s reality, especially in the internet age. Before the first meeting, are you looking for everything about the person: work, family, musical tastes?And when the big day comes, you lie. You say you agree with each other’s political opinions, do you dress the way you think the other would want?But just as the fruit will fall at some point in the tree, one day the truth will appear.
- If you don’t know each other.
- How do you want others to know you.
- How can you share your life with others?How can you spend your life doing and saying things you don’t agree with?That’s not possible.
- For an hour.
- Your inner voice will carry you.
- Your true desires will be demonstrated and the passion will end You know why?Because the person the other knew wasn’t you.
An undisputed fact I’ve learned in recent years is that relationships can’t last long if the people involved don’t know who they are, Without self-knowledge, you’ll never feel complete at work, in relationships, in life?, you have to know what you want, have your own light, love you, take care of yourself, respect you, you have to be balanced and happy.
No one was born to be the complement or the missing part of anyone. You must be complete, full of self-love, energy and light, like a full, overflowing pot. Then, if you wish, you can find someone like that, or at least willing to be like that, so that together we can be happy and build a healthy and lasting relationship.
What if both or one of them are discovered, but the passion has come?How about, instead of giving up, taking a chance and investing together in self-care?Individual therapy, couples therapy, yoga, tantra, religion, path, if love is true, is it possible to adjust what is broken?or what’s ‘broken’.
If your partner isn’t willing to invest in their own improvement, invest in yours. Plant the seed, grow, bloom and whatever is good for you will stay. Which isn’t good, go. And good new things will come and stay. And the good is even better. As I said in previous articles, I only write about what I’ve lived and what I know. Only you can be your best friend and your worst enemy. The first option is always the best. You can’t escape.