Relations? What a complicated world, isn’t it? Sources of pleasure, fear, hope, pain, nostalgia, hatred, joy . . . sources of intensity and color with different shades. Relationships are sources that we have been drinking since we were children and that we don’t always know how to choose. , we all know one or more people who are a social disaster.
A disaster because they do not know how to identify the people who deserve their trust and confuse them with those who do not deserve it, self-centered people, who, after themselves, recover, in an endless succession of ups and downs, like a yo-yo Until they become exactly a toy, broken, destroyed by their own inability to leave their eternal cycle of unbalanced forces , which they themselves have created.
- Experience teaches us.
- If we burn once we touch a hot object.
- We won’t touch it again.
- Well.
- I’m lying.
- There are people who do that.
- Rare and strange cases that need to be reaffirmed?And burn again clearly.
- They are people of infinite goodness.
- Who give no less opportunities than the number equivalent to their goodness.
- This is how they burn again in the same place that they had previously been beaten.
But imagine that we are not like this and that we learn what we need with a burn, then we could go to the opposite end and start to suspect all the objects that are close to us, this would put on very thick gloves with a low heat transfer capacity. In that case, we would face people who live their lives protected by a shield.
They manage to live with others, but always surrounded by fear and superficiality, the gloves they wear prevent them from receiving the heat transmitted to them by others, a warmth in the form of affection, which is good for everyone, besides, two things can happen: they get used to gloves and no longer want to take them off and therefore give up forever the heat , or they don’t and they show a desire to take them off.
This desire will act in the same way as a very strong emotion, which we contain or suppress a lot to prevent its energy from affecting us, it will be a pressure pump that will explode at the most unexpected moment. The great desire to get rid of these gloves will eventually be done by pulse, without thinking about the temperature of the next object you will touch.
Open the rest of the senses. Watch people act. A person who criticizes others behind his back will eventually do it with us as well. A person who does not take into account the interests of the people with which he lives will also not consider ours. lying to protect yourself will do that to us, too. Someone who sees others as instruments to achieve their goals will also see us as an additional tool at their disposal.
It’s about knowing beyond what people are exposing on their social media or broadcasting in their speeches. It’s about understanding the individual as a whole and seeing how the aspects we perceive correspond to them. The important thing is not to keep the puzzle part. that the person has already assembled or composed. It’s about trying to draw for yourself and whether we like it or not, whether we want that person to be a part of our life or not.
Before touching a person and leaving their hand (giving them all our confidence), it would be good to know their story, much of the thread of their life, how they have faced the challenges they have faced, what goals they have set out to develop, what their dreams are and what they would be willing to do to achieve them.
They exist, even if we have faith in the goodness of human beings. Whether it’s circumstance or genetics, there are people who have enormous destructive power. Within this group, unfortunately, there are people who are experts in camouflage and who know the history of the frog. The one who soaked a pot of cold water and couldn’t get out in time when the water temperature started to rise.
So, many people project the feeling of being cold water and once they gain our trust they raise the temperature, until we start to burn almost without heat. realizing. So when did we decide to take our hand off?we have often suffered very deep damage.
In this sense, we must be aware that people are dynamic and changing, like the world around us. I’m not telling you to become a paranoid person and constantly evaluate your personal relationships; but it would be nice if you took what has been said here as a reference to identify changes and so that, however gradual, they do not go unnoticed.