Relationships are one of the most important parts of our lives. For many of us, success in love is as important or more important than success at work or in the family. However, finding a perfectly functioning relationship is not easy. As a result, many unhappy couples are content with an uns suitable ideal situation and stay together despite the problems.
In today’s article we will see what are the main reasons why unhappy couples avoid a rupture, even if they are not satisfied with the relationship.
- We all know at least two people who have a relationship that doesn’t work.
- But still decide to stay together.
- On the other hand.
- Although the psychology of relationships is in full development.
- It is an issue that is very important in most research.
According to various studies, the most common reasons for continuing a relationship, even when it causes suffering, are:
One of the main reasons that most unhappy couples cite as a reason for not separating is the existence of external factors, such as lack of money or children in common, since breaking the relationship would entail great suffering, the couple decided to move. onwards, although it is a source of negative emotions at this time.
However, in many cases, acting in this way avoids dealing with greater short-term pain in exchange for an extension over time. For example, most couples who are together simply for their children can do them more harm than good. Sometimes it’s worth looking for a solution to these external factors that can maintain the relationship, even if it’s not healthy for long.
Religious beliefs are another important reason why many unhappy couples stay together. In countries where the Catholic religion is very important, divorce rates are much lower than in countries considered lay.
It has to do with the religious belief that a marriage is sacred and therefore breaking it is one of the worst sins a couple can commit. Therefore, many married religious would rather be unhappy in their relationship rather than do such a terrible act (for them) when love ends.
Not all unhappy couples who decide to move do so because of external factors, such as money or religion. In some cases, the main reason for staying together is the strong commitment that exists between the couple.
According to Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, the most accepted among psychologists to explain how couple relationships work, one of the components of love is commitment, while it is generally necessary to have two other components (intimacy and passion) for a solid relationship with exists, there is a kind of love based solely on commitment: love says empty.
Sometimes this type of bond is enough to maintain a relationship, despite the problems the couple may face.
One of the cognitive biases that hurts the most is the feeling of wasting time, we believe that because we have already invested a lot of resources and effort in something we have to persevere even if it clearly does not work, this happens to many players and some people in real life.
This sense of lost time can damage us in many areas, and in the area of relationships, it can push us to fight for a relationship that no longer works, simply because we have been together for a long time. This may sound great in theory, but in practice we will become increasingly irritated with our partner and move further away from him.
So if at some point you’re tempted to stick with your partner simply because you’ve been with him for a long time, remember that sometimes it’s better to suffer a little in the short term than suffer for a long time.