It is relatively common for teenagers to fall in love with “bad guys”, a figure that arouses fascination, so many young people are also willing to take on this role, as it apparently makes them more interesting for the opposite sex and gives them some authority within their group of colleagues and friends.
There are several studies on the increase in violence between adolescent couples, it is a phenomenon of ups and downs and in which it is usually included?Bad boy? And a girl in love with him.
- It must be said that there are also several surveys.
- Such as that of the University of Huelva.
- Where we find that girls generate more physical and verbal violence.
- While boys generate sexual and relational violence.
“This irrational desire for domination, control and power over the other person is the main force that fuels domestic violence between couples. -Luis Rojas Marcos-
The bad boy? It incorporates a model of masculinity characterized by courage, boldness, self-confidence and a certain aura of invulnerability; he is something of an epic hero of literature, who seems invincible in all areas and also shows some absence of emotions. , as if nothing had moved him.
This type of figure represents the most classic model of masculinity that has been endowed with erotic qualities by different cultures. Voyou? History offers a solid and very attractive place in times when everything seems to lose its solidity, as happens in adolescence.
There are many teenagers who fall easily in love with the ‘bad boy’ because it gives them the security they lack and offers them a seemingly firm port, just as these girls disconnect from the face of mother and father. The child often incorporates a figure with paternal features on his or her severe face.
The bad guys? They are often one of the perpetrators of gender-based violence. As we have already pointed out, the number of violent girls in a relationship also increases significantly, but this time we will focus on the male case.
The way this violence is carried out is very varied and usually begins with possessiveness and sexual demands. It is very common for a young woman who has one of these characters as a couple to frequently take the “morning-after pill” because of the sex. children refuse to use condoms, which can have a significant impact on a woman’s health.
Young women who engage in this type of relationship also tend to create strong relationships of dependence with their partners. Isn’t it uncommon in cases where, even after an assault, the girls themselves look for it?Bad boy? To resume the relationship.
Available studies indicate that it is not a good idea to ban the relationship, as this often has counterproductive effects, most commonly the loving girl assumes prohibition as an obstacle that must be overcome by the force of love, often only prohibitions making the relationship more obsessive.
Most girls living in this situation know the “theory” but have a hard time putting it into practice. Should they be questioned, many of them will say that violence against women deploys, that they are aware of their rights and that I deeply appreciate them However, at the end of the day, what they are doing is not what they are saying.
Girls they fall in love with?A two-hour conference at school isn’t enough, let alone a lesson recited by your parents. Within these girls there is a lack of security, perhaps unresolved trauma or internalization of insecurity. practical models That’s why they need more than just an informal conversation.
It is also common for these girls to come from homes marked by gender violence, they reject it, but when it comes to acting on the situation they end up repeating the model they have learned, in those cases the best option is to consult a psychologist Only if the girl runs the risk of serious harm, it is worth the direct action of parents on the relationship.