Some people are used to being very easily offended. However, at one point, we all made the mistake of reacting disproportionately to an attitude or comment that, when we thought coldly, was not so important. So why are we offended by where does this inner spring that throws us into the enemy come from?Disproportionate?
For some reason, under certain circumstances, our judgment becomes cloudy and the most primitive or emotional brain takes over. If, analyzing logically, we understand that we have crossed the line in our interpretation of the facts, why can’t we control ourselves?Right now?
- The habit of offending yourself can cause great suffering.
- It makes us realize that others want to hurt us.
- Humiliate us or underestimate us.
- Leaving us in constant alertness.
- And this extreme susceptibility affects our interpersonal relationships.
- Straining them.
- Breaking them or making them a source of suffering for all.
- What can we do about it?.
The objective is by no means to allow us to disrespect or harm us, there are situations of obvious insult or manifest aggression in which it makes sense and sense to be offended and defend our integrity, but in many other cases this is more of a misperception on our part, and that is where we must act.
It is important to understand what variables modulate this exaggerated susceptibility:
The key is to understand that no one offends us, we offend us, the choice belongs to us, we cannot control how others talk or behave, our only option is how to react to them, therefore we have to get used to not jumping like others. a spring, doing a personal job in which he chooses not to be offended.
If the attacks are clearly lestive, use assertive communication, defend your rights with respect or cut that link, but always analyze the veracity of your interpretation, as we usually observe what happens through the prism of our wounds and needs.
In this sense, you need to get rid of the habit of offending yourself and get used to your mind to seek and use other cognitive pathways. Ask, don’t assume. In many cases, susceptibility leads us to expect the worst, to take negative intentions for granted, when reality is not.
Making our interpretation of what others say or do in their interactions with us more flexible will avoid conflict and improve our social relationships and inner state. Why not try? Sometimes having peace is healthier than being right.