Everybody loves to get compliments, but always and in all circumstances?You may have felt uncomfortable at some point after being praised. It’s a more common experience than we can imagine.
But let’s start at the beginning: what exactly is a compliment?Being strict, a compliment is a specific verbal behavior that highlights a person’s positive characteristics. Praise works as a social booster and helps make interactions between people more enjoyable.
- In other words.
- Praise is almost like a compliment.
- When we receive a compliment.
- The person who does it highlights a positive characteristic.
- That is.
- There would be no reason to feel uncomfortable when someone makes a compliment.
- However.
- The reality is very different and Often.
- These compliments make us feel uncomfortable.
- Why is this happening?.
As we said, a compliment is first and foremost something nice and positive, making a compliment means saying something pleasing to the other person, in particular it is about informing/highlighting a physical characteristic or its behavior that we like or value in a positive way.
We all like to hear nice things about ourselves, it makes us feel good, however, the exchange of positive verbalizations is rare in our society, we use little positive reinforcement, being the most common punishment.
We consider the ‘good’, ‘positive’, ‘what do we like’?Then why say it out loud? That’s why it’s unusual to give or receive praise.
Can we feel ‘ringard’, ‘idiots’, ‘ridiculous’, etc. However, if we believe that reinforcement is better than punishment, will we be motivated to change and become more positive people?On the other hand, when someone congratulates us, we can feel surprise, strangeness and, in extreme cases, even laugh at the person who is doing this to us, so it is important to know how to receive praise and not just how to do it.
Getting compliments is easy, even if many people find it difficult to receive compliments. In fact, there are many advantages to knowing how to receive praise, let’s see what they are.
As we see, these are some of the benefits of knowing how to receive compliments, there are many others, but these are enough to give you an idea of their importance.
If we already know the benefits of knowing how to receive praise, why can we feel stagnant/annoyed when someone congratulates us?Behind the discomfort of receiving praise lies the following belief: “Do not trust if you are congratulated, you must want something This belief leads us to interpret praise as a threat or a danger. Therefore, we will react with suspicion, fear, anxiety or anxiety. However, on many occasions that danger does not exist, only verbal conditioning.
Sometimes these compliments are used to manipulate or create an easy/motivating climate that allows the other person to achieve their goal, which could lead to a phrase that, in principle, could generate positive emotions to be classified as negative and generate negative emotions. answers if interpreted as manipulation.
Another belief that can block us when we receive praise is: “Be simple and modest, the people who stand out are envied. “This message also leads us not to like to hear good things about ourselves.
Another belief associated with the discomfort of receiving compliments is: “Does the person expect to receive a compliment in return?”This thought is usually irrational because we don’t know what the other person thinks. It is better to think that a compliment happens spontaneously and waits for a match.
One last thought or belief associated with the discomfort of receiving praise is, “Is it a sarcastic compliment,” he said, “to irritate me?In this case, this belief can be changed by:? It may or may not. I accept a compliment and, if I’m honest, thank you. If not, am I partly thwarting your intentions in accepting it?
We can change these irrational beliefs related to the discomfort of receiving praise, so we will be closer to learning to receive them without shame, our relationship will be more sincere and fulfilling.