No one is more unfaithful than jealousy. He may even be unfaithful only in desire, without actually achieving it in action, but the truth is that the idea of fidelity does not fit in his mind, so he questions his partner, even if there are no reasons. thought patterns like this, it is said that the thief judges by his condition.
This doesn’t just apply to jealous people. The thief judges by his condition every time someone attributes to another what actually applies to himself or, in other words, when he sees others as if he is looking at himself in a mirror, and then look at them the characteristics that are really in themselves. . He attributes his own flaws or virtues to others.
“The way we treat ourselves is also the way we treat others. “- Miguel Ruiz-
When we say that the thief judges by his condition, we are actually talking about an unconscious defense mechanism. This mechanism is called “projection”. It is precisely to see in others what we do not want to admit in ourselves.
Defense mechanisms are largely unconscious strategies. Its goal is to protect awareness of unpleasant or intolerable thoughts or emotions. It’s like there’s a button that’s automatically activated. This button covers a veil on what we don’t want to see. stop seeing that, even if it’s there.
We all have defense mechanisms, some train from very young and others later, help us maintain balance and are neither bad nor good in themselves, some people are more aware of the defense mechanisms they use, while for others it is more difficult to recognize them.
Projection is one of these defense mechanisms. This avoids the discomfort of having to pay attention to personal realities that we consciously reject. That’s why we inadvertently set aside these realities. We attribute them to each other. That’s when the thief judges on his condition.
One way or another, we all project all the time, we see the world our way. We make a particular reading of reality, as objective as we want to be, we see some aspects and we do not see others. We focus on some details and not others. When we talk about the world, we talk a lot about ourselves.
The projection mechanism works in different ways, here are some examples:
The projection is not only isolated, sometimes we built real theories that reveal very particular characteristics, it happened to self-centered humanity that could not accept that it was the Earth that rotated around the Sun.
If you are able to become aware of the projections, you greatly increase your self-awareness, to achieve it the most effective thing is to take a certain distance and try to observe yourself in some way, the idea is to capture how you really feel.
When you spontaneously judge someone, try to take a break. Consider the content of this trial and how you feel about it. Evaluate your reasons for judging this person in this way. Try to decipher what negative feelings accompany this reasoning.
It’s quite possible that with this little exercise you’ll start to realize how you design. He begins to understand what it means to say that the thief judges by his condition. Find in yourself the traces of what seems unbearable in others.