My grandparents, jokingly and at the same time with some sadness, often tell me that love lasts less these days. Home services succeed, everything is instantaneous. Uncertain and time-consuming investments are scary.
In fact, relatively young couples who accumulate years together are an endangered species, the younger ones say that before you find love forever you have to have lived love for a while, what young people do not know is that as they age the manias accumulate and everything gets complicated for Cupid.
- As we age.
- Not only do we win wrinkles.
- We also gain edges and lose patience.
- We can overcome the latter with unconditional loves.
- Such as our family.
- But we lose it to those loves that are not yet and that will take time.
- Because all trust needs space and affection.
“Love is space and time measured by the heart. -Marcel Proust-
With few exceptions, if a young person wants to live outside the family home and face the expenses that this type of independence requires, statistics indicate that he will have to work long hours, in addition to very few jobs, low prices, high rents, light and gas are a luxury, and holidays, vacation?
This increases anxiety, decreases sleep hours and we spend the time we have maintaining relationships with a voice and letters focused on the phone, it may be worth it for a while, as well as the initial inertia lasts, until two people get up from it. bed like two strangers, with the same hope, with the same detachment.
We live longer, but we’re attractive for fewer years. We have botox, but we find no joy. The one who produces smiles and feeds generosity. We showed one image on the net and lived with another, because if we were honestly, we must recognize that when we put a gesture in the photo, we were already cheating.
Love therefore needs to do a survival exercise, because it is not alien to the rhythm of life imposed by our environment. Do you suffer from new communication channels because I love you with emoticons? It will never be the same as words with a beautiful bouquet of roses and a look. A walk in the park with nuts and hopes will never be the same as a dinner on Skype hoping that the signal does not fail.
If the means with which we care about love are much worse, it is normal that love is now more fragile, that it resists less and is more massacred.
Let’s go first because we assume the other one can do the same too. We’ll pack up before we cut the relationship because we don’t have the resources to keep betting on an unlikely promise. We are more aware than ever of the mortality of love and the consequences of its failure.
We don’t give ourselves a chance to prove it because we can’t let our routine collapse one day if it fails. One thing that affects us so much, when we have many things that already affect us little, is not acceptable.
The reality is already unstable enough to believe that an attractive stranger may have spots on his body that we will one day know by heart.
So loving today is complicated. The obstacles are much greater than before, no long as lovers couldn’t see themselves alone or that public caresses were a source of censorship, so we killed a monster to create a much more powerful and even scarier one. In this way, we may have evolved in many ways, but the fact is that modern times are more rebellious times than ever before for love.