According to several anthropological and psychological studies, and from an evolutionary perspective, infidelity in the animal world is much more common than is thought.
And we, as human beings, also belong to this animal world, so the results of these studies affect us in a certain way, so we will think about it.
We live in extremely artificial societies, in all respects, and we suffer a lot for them.
Throughout our lives we have been introducing ourselves to a series of ideas and beliefs that govern the way we act in the world, many of these ideas are irrational, lack logic or are false, because they do not correspond to reality.
Hyper-romantic ideas are an example of irrational beliefs
They teach us that we have half the orange, that we need an escort to be complete, that the person who has been unfaithful to us is a bad person and that infidelity or abandonment is a dramatic or terrible fact.
All these messages, as well as some movies and love songs, are engraved in our heads and we continue to believe until we own these ideas.
The problem is that when something like this happens, we feel incredibly bad and live it as if it were a terrible and unbearable fact, which can even cause us to fall into the networks of depression and lead us to serious problems.
To get rid of these misconceptions, we must be realistic and adhere to the natural, in this way we will suffer much less if we ever encounter this adversity.
We have to think about the real thing: almost all living things are polygamous and not monogamous as we strive to be.
26% of women and 35% of men admit to being unfaithful at some point in their lives, and this is much more common than we think.
Therefore, something natural should not be classified as very serious or terrible, but as a small adversity that should not mean a world, nor even provoke an end if the other aspects of the couple work properly.
We have to accept the totally real idea that no one belongs to anyone and that no one needs anyone.
If we incorporate this idea into our vital philosophy, we will realize that the emotional impact of possible infidelity is significantly reduced.
Personally, I believe that deception or betrayal is worse than infidelity itself, because the deceiver believes that what he is doing is wrong and makes the decision to hide it, without letting the other member freely decide what to do with this situation.
Regardless of deception or lies, if we do not want to suffer so much for infidelity, we must be aware that we are all infidel by nature, but we control ourselves by culture.
It is true that being faithful to the couple is beautiful and admirable and there are many couples who are faithful throughout their lives and live happily ever after, but that does not mean that it is not the result of our ability to control us.
Does everything have an explanation?
Biologically, a man needs multiple sexual partners to make sure his genes don’t go away, and the woman looks for complementary properties, livelihoods, and a variety of DNA.
Like it or not, this trend continues to lay in us as an instinct for survival, as does the fear of protecting us from danger or disgust to avoid poisoning.
After the first four years of passion, we fall into monotony and routine and clothes arouse the appetite for something new. However, love is often able to overcome instincts.
It is possible to keep the flame on and it is important that we do it, having regular sex, innovating as much as possible so as not to fall into boredom and maintaining close contact: holding hands, hugging, sleeping together?These are small details that bring us closer to our partner.