When asked who the person who made us feel most loved is, the most common answers are usually parents or, in some cases, grandparents. What’s so special about this love that makes us feel so loved?What is this unconditional love like?
The secret is unconditionality. In this way of loving sincerely and unconditionally that you do not understand perfection, expectations or mistakes, but acceptance. Hence the importance of unconditional love for our children. Let’s take a look at this.
“If I don’t have love, I’m nothing. ” Letter from St Paul to the Corinthians, 13:1?
Unconditional love is the purest and most sincere expression of love and is often reserved for children. He’s innate, there’s no need to do anything to get there, that is, when a child is born, his parents just fall in love with him, no matter what.
Probably no one else will love us in the same way: without conditions. It doesn’t matter what we look like, our mistakes or our faults. We have nothing to do to make them love us, we just have to be ourselves.
Unconditional love has great value during the early years of creation, it is the basis for the development of a secure bond of attachment and its subsequent emotional structure.
A child who feels safe and well cared for will want to explore the world and connect with others without fear, because he knows there is a safe place to return to, where he is cared for and loved.
In addition, he will become an adult with good self-esteem and will be more likely to establish satisfactory relationships with others.
As you can see, this kind of love gives stability, a sense of protection and safety, ingredients necessary to feel good about yourself and others.
Sometimes we are sure that we love our children unconditionally, but do they know? Are we able to transmit this love correctly?
The truth is that sometimes they can perceive this differently, so it’s important to be sure how they feel.
In addition, to make them feel unconditionally loved by us, the following recommendations can help:
Finally, remember that unconditional love is closely tied to caring
As much as we are affectionate and talk to our children, even if we do not pay attention to their basic needs, their food, their hygiene and their studies, among others, there will be no unconditional love.