It is very romantic to talk about love and relationships through sweet phrases and words and details full of affection, spontaneity is one of the most beautiful aspects of some relationships, but over time this characteristic tends to occupy less and less ground in the world built by two For this reason, some may think about the importance of establishing a romantic relationship.
When the couple has been together longer, they already have a routine and a common daily routine, there are many expectations that are readjusted, although love is still alive, every day small difficulties arise that need to be solved or worked. And if they throw themselves under the carpet, the problems begin.
- “A brilliant marriage doesn’t happen when you find a perfect marriage.
- Does this happen when an imperfect couple learns from their differences?.
- – Dave Meurer-.
Cohabitation reinforces the bond, but at the same time gives rise to situations that can lead to wear and tear, decidedly the two members of the couple have different stories, customs and ways of acting differently. all its unique features is not always an easy task.
At the same time, throughout the days, weeks, months and years, love also undergoes changes, there are times when it seems that it is no longer there, slips arise and with them the doubt: is it worth moving on?someone is always based on an implicit opposite that says yes, it’s worth it. So would it be good to make this contract explicit to protect the link between these times of crisis and wear and tear?
Every couple needs agreements to live in peace. Most commonly, they occur spontaneously and without particular rules, as different situations arise, partial pacts are formed and, in practice, everyone decides whether to respect them or not.
Most agreements are implicit. However, these agreements are not always fair and reasonable; often, one person yields, even without conviction, to the demands or negligence of the other party, simply because he does not want a conflict or sees the fight as a lost cause. does not mean that the person is satisfied or comfortable with the situation.
Cohabitation always brings tensions with you. This, however, can become critical when one or both are reluctant to fulfill their role. We are not only talking about small tasks or daily needs, but also deeper aspects such as loyalty, attention, availability and consideration for others.
In many cases, several pacts are implicitly broken. Fights can occur with arguments that they never existed or were not properly understood, so the implicit may not be the best option for entering into agreements.
Some couples live off the proposal to replace the implicit rules of the game with another model of rules expressed in a contract, pacts that go far beyond agreeing who will walk the dog every day, or who will wash dishes after dinner or clean the bathroom. We’re talking about issues like what’s considered infidelity or the kind of action you can take when someone feels emotionally abandoned.
The New York Times recently published the story of a couple who built a set of rules and standards, a contract that contains a complete guide to guide the relationship. Proposals range from the allocation of time and tasks to issues related to money and disease rules, home visits and conversations on difficult topics. The couple who tell their story say the result was spectacular.
Is it worthwhile for everyone to draw up a contract drafting their own code of conduct, as if it were a regulation, to ensure more harmony and care for the love bond?Is this a way to end all spontaneity or a realistic way?to deal with the fact that love is also based on rational decisions and will?
Perhaps in a society like North America this type of regulation for couples is a perfectly plausible option, in some Latin cultures, however, such an agreement may not be easily accepted, but we cannot say that we cannot try. achieve this kind of pacification.
Certainly, coexistence, whatever it may be, is much more harmonious when the rules of the game are clear to all parties involved, in addition, of course, to being freely respected, which avoids unnecessary conflicts and invests in a civilized way of facing obligations. In this sense, certain accepted and respected pacts can promote the flow of the relationship and also contribute to the preservation of good coexistence.
Of course, when we talk about a romantic relationship, we are talking about much more than just an agreement to reach the organization, there is a multiplicity of feelings, emotions and expectations that are never entirely conscious, but at the same time are part of it. of the relationship and mark our actions and thoughts. Love between two people can never be reduced to a catalogue of rules. In all human connections there will always be a space marked by uncontrollable uncertainty. And that’s good. That’s where the passion lies.