No one likes lies, whether pious or small. It is not good for them to decide for us what we should or should not know, how we should do it, and for whom we should bury something.
There is nothing more damning than lies and hypocrisy, because both make us feel small and vulnerable, make us suspect the world and create protection from the ice that eventually breaks us inside, so with small lies we lose great people because a thousand. Truths and hundreds of feelings are questioned that we think are sincere as well.
- Deception fuels the bad habit of manipulating and fragmenting other people’s experiences and feelings.
- Which makes us victims and ends up being intolerable in seeking well-being and comfort in a relationship.
When you break a feeling as important as trust, something breaks in us, it’s really sad that good relationships and friendships are destroyed by something that could have been avoided.
In fact, when we realize or discover that we have been deceived, we generally believe that no matter how hard reality is, we could have endured it much better than the betrayal of our trust.
When lies are discovered they always cause more pain than the truth, and we must not forget that the fact that the truth is once revealed is very likely because, as we well know, the lie has a short leg.
Anyway, it is worth saying here that we cannot demand sincerity and always offend ourselves when someone tells the truth, which is said with respect, this is important because we often consider a sincere person to be boring or “valued” regardless. acts of good faith.
We all have an explicit and implicit belief that a person’s quality depends on their ability to be sincere and clear to the world and the people around them.
Similarly, we assume that the basis of all sincere affection is precisely total and absolute acceptance, without limitations, conditions or excuses, that is, in principle, we understand that we do not have to lie or hide anything from those we love. love and those who love us.
But perhaps the more affection there is in a relationship, the more expectations there are, the mere fact that one day we disappoint the hopes and expectations that others place in us makes us sometimes make the mistake of believing that small lies can be justified in this context.
However, as we said, this is not the case. As much as it is difficult for us to understand, we must stop and think about what disappoints us most, the lack of sincerity or truth, although this momentarily compromises the ideal that others have of us.
We all make mistakes, but we may think that hiding what is not supposed to be said is one more mistake. It is our responsibility to consider all possibilities and be tolerant of others in the same way that we would like them to be tolerant. We.
From there it is up to us to analyze whether or not we are able to forgive and how we can manage the situation, and yet we must not forget that the fact that forgiveness exists should not be a justification for hurting others. or others hurt us.
In the end, it is the relationships of sincere affection that are capable of sustaining all the truth and all the reality that accompanies it, but the lie can destroy and devastate trust, something that requires hundreds of experiences to build and only a second to break. .
That’s why we have to be very careful at this point, which is the most important or at least one of the most important of our emotional relationships of positive exchanges, let’s not forget that lying, however hard, is a great opportunity to grow and improve. select the people around us.