Knowing how to retract time in a complex situation, think about what happened, understand what it feels like and try again once the forces are regained, is an act of courage.
Choosing the right time to leave a relationship, an argument with another person or a job that does not satisfy us requires willpower and overcoming the fear of consequences, sometimes we live situations that exhaust us and we cannot go out and regain strength.
- There are circumstances in which it is necessary to think of one’s personal happiness and to walk towards inner peace in order to regain strength.
- Are situations in which it is essential to try to have coherence between what we think.
- Feel.
- Say and do.
“Happiness is inner, not external, so it does not depend on what we have, but on who we are. ? -Pablo Neruda-
Happiness is a term that seems utopian and we mean the past – in the summer of 2000, I was happy. Researchers in positive psychology have reached consensus on defining the concept of happiness based on three aspects:
In other words, a happy person is one who has many positive experiences of affection, few negative ones and is satisfied with his life, however, we cannot forget that there is no objective happiness, but a subjective state of happiness in all. of us.
The pursuit of this subjective state of happiness is what drives us to leave when we realize that a situation is uncomfortable or simply does not make us happy, and to return once we have regained our vital energy.
Human happiness is directly related to certain emotions. This is where emotional intelligence comes into play as an ability to understand one’s emotions and those of others.
“The ability to pause and not act on the first impulse has become a crucial learning experience in everyday life. -Daniel Goleman-
When it comes to emotions, there are experts who think we can fully control them and others who think there is nothing we can do to control them, however, research has also concluded that the way a person interprets their emotions can change the way they experience them.
For example, if you are afraid to speak in public, you may think that nervousness is negative, but if you interpret it as the will to do the right thing, you are more likely to succeed. It’s just a matter of understanding how we feel. and manage those emotions in our favor.
Loneliness often gives us time to get to know each other, to reflect on our lives, loneliness gives us a space and a place to identify our strengths and weaknesses and work on what we need to improve.
“Make peace with loneliness. He takes you by the hand to get to know you better, to be face to face with your being. Alone and with no one to disturb. ? -Walter laughs-“
Therefore, loneliness cannot be seen as a negative thing, but as a collaborator in the process of self-knowledge necessary at different times in our existence. Sometimes we need to regain strength and energy, return to our origins, and peace. loneliness helps us do it.
The use of emotional intelligence is to identify our emotions and our mood: to recognize when we are upset, nervous or sad, to act on the source of emotion and, ultimately, on emotion itself. Emotions.
If you stop thinking for a moment about everything you say when something bad happens to you, you will realize that it is you who feeds that emotion and makes it increasing, so if at first it was easy to handle, when everything is contaminated can become a great challenge.
If you make a mistake at work, you don’t have to torture yourself, learn. Do not let discouragement grow; Remember all the times you’ve done things right, so you can put the event into perspective, manage negative emotions and return to your inner peace.
“The reason is cold, but it looks clear. The emotion must be warm, but without losing that clarity. -J. Balmes-
As with young children when they cry and try to distract them with a toy, if this negative emotion starts to overwhelm us, we can focus on another task to divert our attention and return to our inner tranquility. Attention control plays a very important role in preventing the return of negative emotional cycles.
In this way you move away from negative emotion and focus on another goal until a while passes and the emotion gradually disappears, it is a strategy that can be used in certain situations, since it is advisable to manage this emotion and know its origin and cause.
Several scientific research has shown that meditation helps prevent negative thoughts and emotions; meditation can help us control fears and reduce anxiety by working with breathing and concentration.
Find a quiet place, breathe slowly, feel the air coming in and out of your lungs gently as your mind and body muscles begin to relax more and more. Practice meditation every day and you will get good results little by little.