We live in a competitive society, where certain personal characteristics and achievements are praised, while others forget, devalue, undervalue. Among us women, this practice is very common, since the role of women in the family and in society has changed a lot in recent times, from the status of mother, wife and housewife to the exercise of these roles and many more. Women entered the labor market, studied, specialized, opened new horizons never before imagined.
This change has caused some adversity in women today, because despite leaving their homes to conquer territories formerly dominated by men, we continue to be generators of life, wives, mothers, housewives, with the primary role in the home.
- In addition to working outside and taking care of the house.
- There are many activities that attract us.
- The world has advanced.
- Technology is present in everything and we cannot get away from it.
- Concerns about health.
- Physical appearance.
- Social status.
- Personal and professional success have occupied all our time.
- Leaving us frustrated because we are not able to manage everything we would like to do.
Those who do not get the work of their dreams and, for whatever reason, engage in an activity considered worthless in front of society, often end up feeling inferior. Women who cannot enter or remain in the labour market, because of unemployment, taking care of their children, or because they are not qualified, end up putting success at work as a prerequisite for their personal worth, thus seeking an ideal. inaccessible life, which causes frustration, low self-esteem, discouragement, even the production of mental and emotional illnesses/disorders common today, which impede self-realization.
The work is really very important and makes us socially, gives us a sense of usefulness, of ability, gives us an affirmation of ourselves, however, we have experienced an ambiguity between the role of formal worker and the roles of mother/wife. , which, although not so socially valued, are still considered important to us.
For example, those who have a formal job resent not being able to spend more time caring for their children at home, while those who stay at home feel incomplete because they don’t feel professionally engaged.
This ambiguity leads us to a frantic search for perfection, to be the best professional, the best mother, to be connected, to take care of our appearance, to be updated, in short, to be good at everything, to be a superwoman. And when you can’t get sick, you live in appearance, worried about what society thinks and not what you really want for yourself, you don’t stop to listen and realize what’s really useful, what it really takes, what you really want. it’s a priority.
We put the occupations aside at the expense of others, we do not devote time to ourselves, to the family, to the husband, we care more about replaceable things, because we have to conquer the world at work, to be the best employee, the Best Professional, forgetting our little world, irreplaceable things, that would cause us deep pain if they were replaced, but we do not give them fair value.
Fortunately, there is still time to change, let’s rebuke our priorities, starting by looking at ourselves, paying attention, analyzing the level of happiness we have, seeing what needs to be changed, and starting to act in that direction. to what we have at home, talk to parents, children and nephews, give them quality time, husband, real friends, people who are by our side when we are not well, you cannot sacrifice priorities for important things, which is important At a time, it may not be anything else, but there are irreplaceable assets and we have to know how to differentiate, we are influencers, we can with our wisdom , our kindness and our sensitivity make our world better!