A sofa, a blanket and a big jug of ice. In the head a storm of dense clouds and the feeling that in this soft corner is the only place away from earthquakes, bombs, attacks or other emotional disasters.
It is the cold and sweet taste of ice cream, facing the warmth of the blanket, which serves as ink to write the first and simple attempt at reconciliation with the world. A ferry where it is possible to identify and recalibrate all threatened ones. Plans that, many or few, were certainly important.
- Ice is one of the most powerful anti-inflammatory and anesthetics we know.
- When your feet are cold it’s like you don’t even feel them.
- When we have a muscle injury the first thing they recommend is ice to reduce inflammation.
- Preventing blood from focusing more on the injured area.
Taking distance, getting out of this “hot” state, also allows us to cut off a torrent of incessant thoughts that only increase the size and exaggeration of our emotional wound. In addition, getting out of conflict situations, in which we feel that the dynamics of the environment that are driving us, also prevent us from saying what we do not mean, or at least saying it with anger or carelessness.
If you think of all the words you uttered and then repented, most of them were certainly in a warm state, amid that inertia we talked about earlier, a boredom or sadness that sometimes blinds you and eliminates care and affection in the way you express yourself.
If we keep ice permanently in a muscle wound, the blood will not enter, and therefore this tissue will not receive the nutrients needed to heal. The same goes for emotional vacations: cold ice is good for the first afternoon, for the first few hours, and then it’s warm, rewarding human contact that can best help us heal this wound.
Same contact with ourselves, a look inside us, that we take a while without observing because it scares us, in fact, if we keep it cold, the worry and sadness remain: they live in us, then it will be more difficult to get them out. . Hence the importance of having a social circle that listens to us and is part of our social immune system.
Our mind, so wonderful and magical, works this way, it has adaptation mechanisms when used in a limited space of time, such as the denial of the loss of a loved one, but that become counterproductive when threaten to settle in perpetuity. any disconnection from reality must have an expiration date so that the revenue you offer us in the short term is not exceeded by the loss of its maintenance.
We use the afternoon analogy in pajamas, with a sofa and ice cream, but there are more subtle escapes such as the long walks in solitude or the irritability with which we try to retain everything that tries to get close. We’re not really angry, but we don’t want anyone to give us back what we’re at war with.
We don’t want to put up with that, that’s where guilt adds up, because we don’t know how to do it nobody has taught us to ask for space and if we’ve been taught, some people understand that under this demand lies exactly the opposite, so emotional intelligence resides in subtle people, because they are nuances and patterns that bend to get to the breaking point , use it in your favor and think that when the ice runs out, it’s time to go. Go back to the world and not buy another one.