The whole of who we are as people is much more than we show, and much more than we think of ourselves. Our lights and shadows are part of a whole to which we belong.
What are our shadows? Our shadows are our personal hell, which we don’t want to recognize in ourselves, what we’re trying to hide.
- Behaviors.
- Thoughts and emotions that seem inappropriate.
- Unacceptable and unacceptable; everything we learn in our culture that we cannot be.
- What we must suppress.
- What we judge and disapprove of in others.
We try to show only a part of ourselves, rejecting what we do not accept that we are too, it is a waste and ends up turning against ourselves.
“No one enlightens by imagining figures of light, but realizing their darkness. “
-Carl Jung-
We believe that our strength is to show our kindest and most cheerful appearance, to show ourselves with a constant smile and a constant desire to be available to others.
Of course, we cannot be like this in all situations, sometimes it is necessary to express our sadness, our anger, our discomfort, our irritation and all the behaviors that are socially considered?Negative?
When we suppress those feelings that manifest themselves naturally and spontaneously, in response to a series of life experiences, we deny the expression of our deepest self.
As a result, these problems become more intense and manifest inappropriately and disproportionately.
For example, when we accumulate a lot of discontent, can we? Exploit? And vent any anger in any situation or person.
When this happens, it can have unpleasant consequences and we also feel guilty about reacting disproportionately.
In the face of the guilt generated by this behavior that we reject, we tend to close ourselves so that it no longer manifests.
What we don’t realize is that in this way we contribute to it happening again in any situation.
If we become aware of this process, we will take an important step towards accepting our shadow, of what we do not want to recognize that we are and that is part of us.
For there to be light, it is necessary to recognize the shadow, for there to be a balance of thoughts, emotions and behaviors, not a balance that goes from one extreme to another.
Leave me alone, effortlessly and naturally. With acceptance, we awaken our conscience to know and love ourselves as we really are.
Our world is formed by the fusion of opposites: the duality of everything and nothing, life and death.
By accepting that we are also trained by these opposites, recognizing everything that we do not want to be and that we reject in others, we become more human and we manage to respect and understand the people who make us reject.
We move from judgment to understanding, both in relation to ourselves and those around us, is the awakening of harmony, the balance of opposites.
There is neither good nor evil, there is the integration of the poles, the balance of this relationship.
For example, if we believe that “I am a responsible person and cannot afford to be otherwise,” we will conflict with one of our aspects. Keeping this thought for a long time is very exhausting and the time can come, inevitably, we go to the other end.
Once we heal the conflict with our opposites, we allow integration and the ability to balance our behaviors.
“If you are suffering, it is for you; if you’re happy it’s because of you. No one is responsible for how you feel, just you and no one else. Are you hell and heaven, too?
Osho?