One of the main causes of psychological discomfort is usually this: we are so identified with certain experiences that there comes a time when we do not know who the viewer is and what the game is.
In addition, we identify more psychologically with the most striking pain experiences and the ones that have had the most psychological and physical impact on us.
- You have to end this belief of being who we really want.
- You have to understand that you are not what happens to you.
- But the support that shelters what is happening to you.
- You are not the experiences you live.
- But what you learn from it.
Human beings were exposed to dangers that constantly questioned their physical integrity, and this imprint of overexploitation and fear became active and latent, although it does not manifest itself constantly.
That is why, on an individual level, we treat pain as something that destroys us, weakens us on an individual and socially suspicious level.
This unhealthy circle does not heal any wounds: we must stop suffering to begin to sink, and to do so we must clarify two concepts that have already been exposed in state-of-the-art therapies: should we differentiate?Your context of self-content ?.
Imagine a glass bottle. It has a consistent and strong appearance, but we know that under certain environmental conditions, it can fall and break: by negligence or intentionally by someone.
This bottle has been occupying an important place in the living room of a home for many years. Is there anything special, did anyone have the idea to cover their lid to make it more eye-catching and write the sentence?Bottle for everything, when the jam it originally contained was finished.
Faced with this aesthetic and this function, over the years, the inhabitants of the house, the children who play with it and even the guests have thrown various substances and objects at him.
The coins were placed inside, glued to its surface, used to “chase cockroaches”, housed matches, wedding memories, nails, pins, washed with bleach, also served as incense, and if someone long forgot, it would accumulate a lot of dirt and dust.
But the bottle was still on the shelf, why don’t you go home and wonder what you see when you look at it?You’d probably say it’s a glass bottle.
For now, you’re wondering what this story is for so you can feel better about the negative things that have happened in your life and the positive things that were in your moment, but that are no longer or are no longer. it’s not a story about a glass bottle, it’s a metaphor for your life.
Like this glass bottle, you also have an immutable and inherent essence, you will have experienced disappointment, abandonment, indifference, betrayal and malicious prejudice, much of this damage remains within you, so you have become someone more suspicious and even a little. Shy.
Very negative things still happen in you, but this time no one drops them, just yourself: you deposit fear, loss of interest, harmful memories and endless tears, if you keep overloading this bottle it may break, so stop. overloading it with lasting negative things.
Go back to your essence and your true self, knowing that no matter what happens, if you’re still alive, good and bad things will come, but you’ll still be here and the world will recognize you.
Knowing that you are solely responsible for the path you choose in your life is an extreme responsibility, but this responsibility arises from freedom.
Then use everything that has happened to learn and learn life lessons based solely on your experiences. Forget some, transform others, turn your back on others and laugh at others.
It’s wisdom, but it’s also knowing how to reaffirm yourself to the world, openly saying what’s happened above compassionate opinions, stigmas and comments, and getting back to being you, regaining your essence. Because you’ve learned that’s not the case, the experiences you live, but the essence that welcomes them and lets them go too.