You deserve the love that you always give to others, the same sincere, selfless and true affection, however, what we propose does not always give up in the same way, with the same intensity and quality, life is not a boomerang, that we do not always return to you, but yet we rarely give up on our desire to offer the best.
Most of us have said at one point that to attract someone, you have to do it for that person. Is it then that we have started a dynamic demarcated by the most varied details, favors, preferences, gifts, compliments? We know that affection is earned with attention, but sometimes we do not know how to measure limits.
- We are not only talking about the process of assistance.
- The world is full of donors without borders.
- Profiles that are not aware of the irreparable cost of offering the whole soul without receiving anything in return.
- They are people who engage with others in every fragment of their being.
- Thinking that this setback is not only worth it.
- But also life; However.
- Emotionally.
- Extreme sacrifices are not always good.
- Leave sequels and seriously threaten our psychic and emotional integrity.
Everything that receives care thrives. We see this in our plants when we put them in the sun, when we water them, we remove their dried leaves and transfer them to larger pots to spread their roots. Attention, worry and affection make us grow in all directions and in all directions.
Just as the gardener cares about his plants, we cannot ignore the fact that the gardener himself also needs attention, it is a small detail that is often overlooked.
There have been those who have been offering glittering love, a wealth of attentions and emotions for decades that are not always returned with the same positive burden. They are people who, in a way, have just accepted a love for third parties, a substitute who, instead of feeding, poisons. But don’t walk away from that. If we now wonder what this behavior explains or being trapped in relationships without reciprocity, the answer is much more complex than we think.
We could talk about lack of self-esteem, but there’s so much more. When these people seek therapy, the first thing that catches the attention of specialists is the flow of internal dialogue of these patients. When we ask them to talk about themselves and define themselves, can we hear things like?I’m the second of three brothers, and you know how hard it is, nobody listened to me?I am commercial, or administrative, I had to start working early and I did not have the opportunity to study, were there many dreams along the way?
What we see, very often, are truncated lives, we have a resigned acceptance and the feeling that deep down these people look sad and deserve this reality, they enter into relationships that do not exactly offer them happiness, but which they consider. valid because they are not able to aspire to something better, in their opinion life always places them in a second row where they have to accept everything that comes.
But the exceptional thing about these cases is that these people are able to give everything for those who are part of their lives, because the act of offering love and attention is their best value, it is their greatest capacity and, without it, otherwise, they will be even more frustrated.
You deserve the love you give to others; thinking like this is not an act of selfishness, but of integrity, of personal dignity. You spend a lot of time as a gardener, being a unique architect of relationships in which you have lifted the pillars, the cement, the walls, and only you are trying to prevent the ceiling from falling, so that love is safe. , covered, safe. However, you’re outside and the cold already burns your skin.
You deserve the love you dreamed of. As we said at first, life is not a boomerang where a person ends up recovering what he throws into the air or into the hearts of others, often this boomerang falls in the middle of the road or just doesn’t come back.
So stop waiting for reciprocity that doesn’t happen and stop investing your share in life in an investment that, instead of generating profits, only pays you losses.
You deserve a love that doesn’t hurt, fills you up and makes you grow. You have to be demanding and feel worthy of it, and for that, nothing better than changing your strategy. Stop being a donor? Become a receiver.
As you are the greatest expert in offering this wing-giving affection and validating others to place them in the world as the most relevant characters, you are now the recipient of this love, vade, feed your roots and return to dreams once stagnant, set aside the conformism and acceptance that rusts. Free yourself to rediscover yourself.