Change is a verb that is conjugated every day, all human beings carry a discomfort that they want to overcome, to a greater or lesser degree, living is not easy and since we were born we are subject to prohibitions and losses that continue until our heart stops beat, there will always be something we want and cannot achieve, there will always be nostalgia that haunts us or frustration in the kitchen.
Discomfort with life itself is not negative, because it is precisely from it that we find motivations to evolve, but disagreement can become harmful when it reaches a disproportionate dimension and becomes an obstacle. When does this lead us to blame ourselves for not being? or give up our dreams because we feel excluded from the world of conquest.
- Sometimes the discomfort we feel fails.
- It’s a mistake of concentration.
- Because it’s not about whipping.
- Sometimes we blame ourselves for not achieving the “X” feat.
- Or for not being able to do “X”.
In reality, it is not a question of changing, being different or denying who we are, the problem is rather to take a smarter and more understanding perspective with ourselves in order to make better use of our talents and even our shortcomings.
We can change the way we act, but not the way we are. We come into the world with a temperament, a genetic heritage and sociocultural conditions that will always mark the way we build our being in the world.
Temperament and basic character can be polished, improved, enhanced, but in essential terms can not be changed, however, is there a kind of?What has been imposed and that insists on promoting the idea that there is only one way to be adequate, UNA?good way of life.
This idea that there are appropriate and inappropriate forms is what ends up becoming a difficulty for everyone to accept the as they are, it is no better to be outgoing than introverted, nor more laudable than prudent, nor more admirable to be rational than introverted. They are simply different ways of being, which may be appropriate or inappropriate depending on the specific circumstances.
Everyone develops and thrives differently. The change option is only valid for habits, personality aspects that are not cultivated enough, or behaviors that can hurt yourself or others. But the core of who we are must be preserved, because that’s what defines us.
Someone who talks too much can be very problematic for jobs that require confidentiality, such as a private investigator or an insurance researcher. Another very reserved person certainly will not do well as a promoter or host of an event. So what is a virtue in an area? To be a terrible flaw in another. They’re not good in themselves either, they’re different. Nor would they have to change, only to be located in the environment that favors them most.
On a personal level, we usually give a model of polarity or complementarity, this means that, in some respects, two very similar people are not understood or do not work well, the best equipment is made up of people with complementary characteristics. No one needs to change to belong to a group, but learn to locate themselves to function within it.
For example, someone who always has many ideas will complement someone else who has the skills to organize or implement them. An impulsive person can inspire and motivate another more cautious person, and that person, in turn, can place a realistic limit on the risky initiatives of the former.
Everyone has the task of learning to see the value of what it is, don’t let them leak empty messages that try to trick you into becoming who you are, if something has to change, you should always do it according to its essence. If something needs to change, it may be the environment you’re staying in: it can be a means that doesn’t let you be who you really are.