Even if they want to convince you otherwise, getting bored is a right and an emotional necessity. Feeling the annoyance, outrage and anger of confusion is the first step in dealing with a problem. He thinks if we just swallow. Boredom every time it appears, without facing what hurts, we will end our self-esteem.
We must keep this in mind: allowing yourself boredom is not losing control or showing weakness. Many times, influenced perhaps by a more spiritual line, we tend to confuse terms and ideas. We know that those who annoy us dominate us, but we’re not going to disable this negative emotion to hide, assume or manage it. Problems have a very clear objective: to invite us to solve a specific threat.
- On the other hand.
- We also know that every day always tests our emotional balance.
- There will be people who will live offended forever and others who will never take anything personally.
- Each of us evolves in our day to day with a certain filter.
- With which we let certain emotions and thoughts pass.
However, everything has an uncompromising boundary and border, we talk about the barrier that often crosses arbitrarily to defame our self-esteem, challenge our emotional integrity or manipulate us, boredom has a purpose, and express it with respect to the right. time and at the most needy time is cathartic and very healthy.
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Oddly enough, very few books explain or discuss the benefits of boredom or outrage. Traditionally, this kind of emotion has always been associated with anger and uncontrollability, lack of moderation, touch and precision when dealing with this setback in life.
However, it should be remembered that, as with the pain process, it is necessary to take the step of accepting one’s emotions before channeling and transforming them, knowing how I feel and why I feel is vital to solving an emotional crossroads. He said the literature on the subject is scarce, but fortunately we have a book at once interesting and informative:?Boring? (2011), by scientists Joe Palca and Flora Lichtman.
In this work they delve into the topic of boredom from a multidisciplinary approach that encompasses neuroscience, sociology, anthropology and psychology. The first thing they tell us is that people often compare boredom to anger, frustration or disgust for something or someone. But that’s not true, scientists suggest understanding boredom as a unique and exclusive emotion.
In turn, an embarrassment never occurs for a specific act. It is an accumulation of “very little training”, it is like the mosquito that flies through our house every night until we finally lose sleep and we cannot focus our attention on However, and this is the most important point of the subject, if not there is discomfort there is no possibility of change, that is, this negative emotion has a purpose: it wants us to act.
Charles Darwin himself once said that negative emotions, such as fear and anger, are warnings that lead us to take appropriate measures to avoid or undo a danger; pay attention to what bothers us, what makes us angry and what calms us is a sign. self-comprehension Acting correctly according to these emotions certainly demonstrates our emotional intelligence.
Then we will see how we must act in these cases and what aspects we must outline in order to understand them.
The first law is to keep in mind that those who live forever offended are destined for eternal unhappiness, there are battles that are not worth fighting, there are aspects that are not worth our attention and conversations that it is better not to start or nurture.
“I have to act and set limits making it clear that I don’t want to be treated like this. I mustn’t let boredom immobilize me until I stop thinking. Will I use it to act intelligently?”
We should not be afraid of negative emotions, understanding them and managing them is the real key to our personal growth.
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