One of the thoughts that causes the most discomfort in people going through a process of leaving and leaving a toxic relationship is the fear of not forgetting the person, the fear that arises from feeling that this person is still present, even if he is. he’s no longer physically present in his life, and who has to do with the uncertainty of not knowing if, at some point, that will change and that person will really disappear?
In this process there are also important emotional impacts when all good memories suddenly arrive, feelings between those who mix nostalgia and anger at the intermittent flashes emitted by this constant source of suffering.
- Of course.
- These people end up wondering: how come the memories of someone I’ve suffered so much and who I have to walk away from are still so beautiful and cause so much discomfort?Is she the person? And shouldn’t I let him.
- Escape.
- Despite all the damage he’s done to me?.
The fact is, you still love that person. This is what hurts us the most when we walk away from someone for our own good and to protect our self-esteem. How can I love someone who has hurt me so much?Is that the question we always ask ourselves?
It’s possible to love someone who hasn’t beaten us. It is possible to remember this person with the same affection and sweetness that his memories have left us. These questions sometimes come to us from friends like “How can you not hate it so “How, after all you’ve suffered, you can’t see it any other way?”And these questions, logics for the head, end up disconcerting the heart.
Of course, it is possible to continue to love a person who has made us suffer, that is the logic of the heart. The passion and pleasurable emotions we live in are always there and remind us of the good times, memories that, when we want to get away from someone, hurt us and make us suffer, because our head is incapable of understanding this strange paradox.
But this paradox exists and is human. There’s no point in getting frustrated trying to convince the heart not to feel when that’s exactly what it does, the heart feels beyond the edge of our head, you may think there are heart-limiting heads, and so build a fort around you and soften your heartbeat until your echo becomes insignificant. But he also thinks that any force, or wall, is defensive and takes us away from what we really feel.
It’s hard to accept this reality, but it saves us from having to make a lot of unnecessary effort, however, this doesn’t mean we can’t use our heads, because that’s why it will help us maintain self-esteem. Not being able to forget someone who was important in our lives (no matter how much that person hurt us) doesn’t mean that person is “the person. “
“Refuse to suffer for love, find your place in solitude, and don’t let the desire to love be above all else. “Walter Riso?
Remembering is human and natural, as it is to continue building our life, in addition, making this experience a learning experience will help us protect ourselves, do whatever you want, sign up for those activities that you have always wanted to do but you missed painting, dancing, composing songs, writing, building, creating, loving your loved ones; Love yourself.
Love yourself, take care, participate in your self-esteem. Clarify what you have learned about yourself through this relationship: blaming the other for evil won’t help much. However, knowing what you could tolerate? For love? Or the passion that blinded you will help you take some of the responsibility you have in this.
“A man travels the world in search of what he needs and goes home to look for him. “George Moore
Thought, be honest with you. Ask yourself, “What boundaries have I crossed when it comes to self-love?”Respond calmly and on time. ” What boundaries do I know I’m not ready to cross in any relationship?Take advantage of this experience and don’t blame yours if you can’t forget. He thinks it is not possible to forget those we already love, but we can build new memories with new experiences that nurture the love we deserve.