Sometimes we look back and try to remember what we were like before. It is not a question of remembering the young people of the past, of our fifteen or twenty years; Sometimes we do this to remind us what our character was like some time ago, compared to how we feel and react now. Have we lost our smile some of that innocence, are we reacting cautiously and less optimistically?
There are people who make us change. Sometimes we live relationships that, far from enriching ourselves, cause sadness, deprivation and even fear, and no, not only are we talking about emotional relationships, or men or women who use their skillful devices as emotional manipulators, we also talk about our family relationships, capable of hurting ourselves and marking part of our childhood, our joys.
- The human personality is not a palace with firm walls; we are all vulnerable to experiences.
- Disappointments.
- Traumas.
- Whether in childhood or maturity.
- And.
- Of course.
- We can change.
- Because something inside us after these traumas breaks down and we still have to stand.
- Even with broken structures.
In fact, we are sure this has happened to you before. In the middle of a conversation, someone suddenly uses an irritated tone and scolds him: “Aren’t you the same as before? Isn’t it fun? Don’t you have the same dreams and the same spark anymore? What happened? The same person who asks you this question may even be responsible for this change.
There are many types of relationships that certainly do not help us move forward as emotionally strong, safe and happy people, because we have someone who accompanies us at every step, in every experience, no matter if we talk about our peers. , our parents and even our friendships; There are clearly harmful people who can change the way we view life, however, it is emotional relationships that have the greatest emotional cost and the ones that can change us the most.
Now, have you ever wondered how these changes happen in our character?Take note of the following:
Is it possible that before you were characterized as a person of great emotional openness, you were receptive, cheerful, optimistic?However, in the face of an interaction in which, far from being recognized, he found contempt, imposition or criticism, his character changed.
You no longer express your emotions, but you hide them; Love is no longer full of dreams, but of anguish and uncertainty, and there is nothing worse than not knowing what to stick to or seeing balance unbalanced, we have invested millions of dreams, joys and efforts, and now we receive nothing. but sadness.
If you previously had a strong view of yourself, self-esteem allowed you to see the world with a wide range of eyes and integrate into each of these perspectives, now your path is completely asewed. The mirror shows the image of someone frustrated, of someone who cannot leave this vicious circle because self-esteem has become a feeling of inferiority.
If I offered optimism, candor, warmth and humility and received nothing but contempt, jokes and criticism, what would I do?First of all, realizing that the person who claimed to love me does not love me, or not, at least, as I expected. Subsequently, you will most likely have a negative perception of me for making a mistake, for naively deceived me, and for investing in those who did not deserve my efforts or feelings.
I won’t see the other person well, but I will also have a negative perception of myself, which is very dangerous, because emotional costs often make us victims, and that’s something we have to deal with.
They disappointed and hurt us, it may be that throughout your life you have met several sculptors of sadness, because they exist in all genres, in all conditions and with many masks, however, it is also important that even if we know that something has changed in us, we are thinking about these aspects:
Have you changed? It’s possible, we’ve all changed, but don’t let yourself walk the path of sadness or lose your dreams. You will love you much more, because now you are the sculptor of your own life and the creator of your happiness.
Image credits: Lucy Campbell