You’ll be happy, life said, but first I’ll make you strong and resilient, I’ll make you reborn. I will help contain potholes, paddle against the wind and tide, learn and gently open the treasure of emotional strength.
Because I, life, am made of good and bad times, difficulties and opportunities, special moments, footprints, scars, companionship, loneliness, anxiety, peace and that wisdom on which we reflect the most chaotic.
- And it is when we look at our history that we understand that everything we experience forms our personality; because it is the pain of the wounds that builds us and helps us to accept ourselves.
- To face each other and to transform ourselves in the midst of adversity.
As the psychiatrist specializing in death and palliative care, Elisabeth Kobler-Ross said: “The most beautiful people I have ever met are those who have experienced defeat, suffering, struggle, loss and out of depths. These people have an appreciation, sensitivity, and understanding of life that fill us with compassion, humility, and a deep concern for love. Don’t beautiful people come out of nowhere?.
She was once the daughter of a gardener who complained about life and the difficulty of moving on. I was tired of fighting and was no longer in the mood at all; when a problem was fixed, a new one appeared and made her feel defeated.
The gardener asked his daughter to come to the kitchen and sit down, then filled three containers with water and set it on fire, when the water started to boil, put a carrot in one of the containers, an egg in the other and in the third of the coffee beans. He let her boil without a word while her daughter waited impatiently without understanding what her father was doing. About twenty minutes later he turned off the fire: he pulled the carrots out of the water and put them in a bowl, put the eggs on a plate and finally leaked the coffee.
He looked at his daughter and asked, “What do you see?”The father asked him to come over and touch the carrot; she obeyed and realized that the carrots were tender. Then he asked him to break the egg; took off his shell and realized the egg was hard. Eventually, he asked her to have a sip of coffee. She tried it, smiled as she savored her sweet scent and humbly asked, “What does that mean, Dad?
The gardener then explained that the three had faced the same adversity: boiling water, but had reacted very differently, the carrot entered the strong and firm water, but after passing through the boiling water, it became weak, easy to disassemble. fragile, but its thin layer protected its inner liquid; after passing through the boiling water, it had hardened; coffee, after passing through the boiling water, had transformed the water.
Which one are you? He asked his daughter, “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you react?You’re like the carrot that looks strong, but in the face of pain and adversity, you become fragile and you lose your strength?You’re like an egg with a malleable heart and mind, but after death, separation or dismissal, do you become hard and stiff?The exterior is still the same, but how did you transform inside?
Or do you like coffee? Coffee changed water, causing pain, when water reaches boiling point, coffee reaches its best flavor, if you’re like coffee beans, when things get worse, you react and transform things around you for the better.
And you, who do you identify with?
Being an egg or carrot just hurts, so get up and move on!Don’t stop. Fight, because if you don’t react today, you’ll suffer tomorrow. Be strong and have self-confidence. Keep in mind that it’s natural for difficulties to arise.
Understand that every stone along the way helps you rething your goal and gives you the opportunity to know what awaited you. In the end, no one is born knowing and victory is born from the ashes of error and adversity.