Today, the intolerance to frustration is great. Parents don’t have time to dedicate themselves to their children and end up leaving everything, to replace love, attention, presence. Children grow up doing what they want, without limits, values and references.
There is also a great competitiveness, the need to achieve false perfection. Many, when they realize they don’t make it, lose interest in life, don’t settle for what they have, and stop trying to improve.
- The principles and values have been reversed.
- It seems that only those who have money.
- Who have social status.
- People seek to achieve this ideal and forget to live their current life.
- Does not enjoy family moments.
- Does not feel gratitude for what they have.
- Always dreaming of what others have.
It made us bitter, limited, aggressive, selfless. Young people try to hide this distress through drug use, bullying, out-of-control sex, these practices cause physical, emotional and mental illness.
Young people/teens are the most vulnerable part of the population, because they still have no serious commitments, they are no longer children, they do not live the innocent fantasies of childhood, they can already perceive general misery and realize that they are not. Happy.
Many lives have killed themselves. Promising stocks ended prematurely. Negative influences have dominated young minds, which have no strong references to follow.
The way of creation that gives everything that children ask for, releases everything, imposes no limits, has created pampered people, without identifying responsibilities and facing challenges. Then, in the face of the first difficulties, the first love disappointment, the first “no”, they despair, they do not understand why and rebel.
As a result, depending on the personality of each person and the examples he has seen in his life, some become violent, aggressive with others, hurt, violent, kill; others are injured, emotionally or physically, mutilated and may even attempt suicide.
Emotional pain also hurts; Faced with the first ‘no’, the first contempt, they feel useless, because they believed that the way to be loved was to receive positive responses for everything, to be the ‘no’ leaves them deranged, lost, thinking that they have a problem.
This pain is enormous, causing many to physically get hurt because, for a few moments, they do not feel the psychic pain, which is stronger. This practice can become an addiction, is it?Normalize it. The love of life cools down and it becomes necessary to go further, until the only step that is missing is suicide.
Other young people (allies to this, or isolated), begin to take drugs in the frantic pursuit of total satisfaction, gradually leave, with something light, however, over time, this becomes increasingly necessary, more urgent and deepening in use, which becomes abusive, generating dependence, become slaves to drugs , life loses its meaning, and it can also lead to suicide, an overdose, by not being aware of what it does, by not wanting to live and confronts reality.
Many people regard this attitude of young people as “lack of ties”, “freshness”, however, we know that this goes much further. Violence solves nothing, in fact generates other problems, punishment without dialogue does no one Better What is missing is affection, affection, time, understanding and clear limits.
Only parents present, as well as models, will be able to explain to their children why they should act one way or another, parents who appreciate the good attitudes of their children and are receptive to talking about the bad, emphasizing the importance of being a good citizen, of trying and respecting everyone, of having good manners, of course, of applying just punishments , will raise educated, dignified and strong children for life.
In this way, the difficulties and negative aspects of life will be perceived as normal and necessary, not being something that brings us pain, but it strengthens us and makes us better people, with a sense of responsibility and limitations, be happy with what we have and Try to be better in this area Every day!
However, we know that many parents are not prepared for change, do not know how to do it, so many teenagers /young people will have to face life, despite the way they were raised, seeking to know each one. others better, to understand what saddens them, the demotiva and to fight it.
It is necessary to have good friendships, to walk with positive people, to seek references in wise adults, to seek professional support, not to give in to despair, but to realize that life must be lived lightly, without excessive demands and, at the same time, with responsibility and wisdom!