Our face is not the only one capable of transmitting emotions, a look away and an arched eyebrow say as much as a person sitting with his legs or arms crossed. People are a bunch of non-verbal communications that are often unknown.
Sometimes we struggle to hide our emotions and feelings without realizing that our hands or the inclination of our torso are indicators of what is going through our heads.
- Fears.
- Anxieties.
- Doubts.
- Mistrust are sometimes aspects that we do not want to demonstrate and yet our body tries to transmit unintentionally.
- But how to avoid it?How do I train or understand body communication? We’ll explain it below.
To be effective with our oral messages we need a body congruence, this certainly happened to you: wanting to pass security during a job interview and quickly notice how your hands tremble, or how, without knowing why, we end up crossing our arms and legs in defensive attitude.
Our body is a powerful communicator of our character and emotions; Being aware of this type of language gives us the opportunity not only to get to know each other better, but also to be more safe when interacting with other people.
Each of us has its own body area. A kind of comfort zone, there are those who maintain their limits when talking to others, express themselves with their hands, with their movements.
However, others go further and try to approach others, something that sometimes – and perhaps according to the type of culture – can be accepted or seen with relative discomfort, introverts, for example, always keep their distance, unlike extroverts.
Hands are excellent transmitters of our emotion. They are also often associated with the type of culture; Latinos tend to be much more expressive with their hands than orientals, for example, but we need to clarify more details about them:
? Very expressive hand movements are typical of people who often have difficulty expressing their ideas verbally, tend to lean on them, make more exaggerated gestures with their hands.
Try looking in the mirror as you explain something, to see if that’s your case. Always use your hands in a balanced way; do not overuse them, or you will feel insecure.
? When you shake hands, do it firmly and forcefully, show safety
The eyes are mirrors that allow us to reflect the smallest details of ourselves. Is this the most sincere part of our body, are they excellent seducers, transmitters of fear, satisfaction, love, sensitivity?
According to the experts, an appropriate way to attract, while talking to someone, is the technique of looking, looking away and looking again. We guarantee the confidentiality of people, but at the same time, we offer security. It’s very effective when it comes to seducing someone you’re attracted to, for example.
When you have a serious conversation, never look away and never give the impression that you’re hiding something, or worse, that you’re lying.
Our posture and the way we place the back say a lot about us, if you keep it very straight, with stiff shoulders, you show a hardness and some stiffness, but if you leave the body a little inclined, or if you stand with your arms crossed, a little inclined to one side, you show some passivity.
You should also pay attention to how you feel in a chair; if we cross our legs and arms, we will convey insecurity and the need to defend ourselves from others. And if you almost sit on the edge of the chair, you’ll convey some nervousness.
It’s better to drop in peace. If you’re used to crossing your legs, that’s fine, but don’t forget to cross your arms too much, leave them relaxed on your body or on the chair supports, plus don’t lean forward.
Some people move one of their legs a lot when they’re sitting down. It is usually a nervous tic, characteristic of very nervous people. Try to check if this is the case; so you can have a quieter, closer and more loving time.