Who has never felt a persistent feeling of irritation or anger towards someone who considered him the cause of an offense or suffering, that is, who has never felt resentment?This deep feeling can provoke deep resentment.
These feelings can cause mild discomfort to profound discomfort that can make it difficult or impossible to relate to the aggressor. It is a mixed revenge, you have no intention of hurting or hurting, but you want to show the other that you have “control”. of the situation”.
Bitterness is a poison I take in the hope of hurting another
This feeling has one of the most powerful filters of the human mind, when resentment takes hold of our emotions, we focus only on the negative aspects of the person we consider to cause our pain, forgetting its positive appearance and emphasizing its harmful characteristics. .
Resentment acts as a protector of our pain, returning us to lost emotional control. Resentment occurs when people think we’ve done or haven’t done something they wanted us to do. We often also think that others should have acted in a certain way and, when that doesn’t happen, we are offended and suffer a lot.
Resentment is based on a very personal interpretation of what others do to us, and the considerations change according to the perspective with which we look at each other, only by rejecting this emotional state and everything around us can we properly analyze people’s behavior and behavior. all the good things that show us, because the suffering caused is as real as the good deeds practiced.
To live away from conflict, we need to change the filters of resentment, because there are no filters more harmful than those we use in this reflective emotional state, if you have to choose one filter to look at the other, let it be that of affection. It can also distort the way we see ourselves, but it will be more productive and everyone will feel better; you and the other person.
“Resentment arises when we blame others and are not responsible for our own experiences. “Louise Hay-
Blaming someone for behaving the way you want is a form of manipulation as old as the beginning of time. Culturally, when do we learn that? We make a mistake, we are punished, and there is no better way to blame others than with resentment.
Believing that guilt requires punishment or an obligation to compensate or repair the damage we have done to someone, the emotional cycle of guilt becomes an emotional maze, this emotional maze reinforces the person who, with his resentment, provokes us a feeling of guilt so great that, without realizing it and in a short time , let us be exposed to its manipulation.
If we feel guilty about what we have done or have not done, we will not be able to live our lives authentically, we will live in the distortion of ‘I must’, ‘I have to do’, and perhaps our lives become what others love us, renounting the path of our own interests.
Of course, we all make mistakes that we are not particularly proud of, but looking back to blame ourselves for the same mistake is an unnecessary waste of energy that brings nothing positive.
In order not to feel guilty, it is enough to take control of one’s life and thoughts, without being judged, without the filters of resentment and distortion that others see in us, because now we know that those filters are distorted.
The troubled soul carries its punishment with guilt.