I suggest you share this reflection with you, for the mere risk that you, who are on the other side of the screen, will not share my opinion, but are you part of this dead end game?
You’ll understand later.
We don’t see things the way they are, do we see things the way we are?
Stop for a moment and think
You, with your virtues and flaws, your experiences and dreams, from all over the world, wherever you are, look at life and what happens according to your peculiarities and preferences.
I, with my virtues and my faults, my experiences and my dreams, from all over the world, wherever I am, look at life and what is happening according to my particularities and preferences.
And in our dialogue we try to change our world, sometimes thinking it’s the same, so sometimes it’s hard to come to an agreement.
In fact, we could both have attended the same event or participated in the same situation, but each will have lived it in their own way, based on our experience, preferences, beliefs, etc. , that is, depending on the way we live. be of each person.
That is why every opinion is as valid as ours, hence the relativism of what has been lived, the subjectivity of our worlds and the construction of our realities.
You with all your experience, me with all my luggage, even if you are at the same point and observe what may look the same, we have different realities.
Let’s see an example
Imagine being invited to a party and you decide to go. But just before you leave, a friend calls you to confirm that you’re going to start working on your business, which is definitive; However, I had an argument with my partner and finally decided to split up, what my body is asking is that I stay home, but I am full of desire and I think taking refuge inside will sink me further. I decide to continue with the program I had.
That’s where we are. You’re radiant with happiness, I drowned in sadness, trying to disguise it.
Still, do we eat, talk, dance? And at some point, a song reminds me of him, I can’t help it and the atmosphere of the party becomes confusing for me, nostalgic and melancholy. Dancing like there’s no tomorrow, and I finally decide to go home. You always want to stay a little longer.
When I remember the party held the day before, I remember that song that saddened me, dishes I loved so much and I performing all the time in disguise so that no one would notice my sadness, while you remember the moments when you danced enthusiastically and were more expansive and fun than usual.
Looks like we went to two different parties, right? The fact is that it was the same, but you made the most of it and I at least, each focusing their attention on different things.
You want more proof?
Often, when we talk about abstract feelings or concepts like love, friendship, trust or freedom, we think we’re talking about the same thing, but there are differences.
I suggest you ask your partner what these concepts mean to him, you will probably be surprised how he sees them, each has its own nuances.
So when we talk, it’s important to ask the other person what the meaning of what we tell them is. This way you will meet your potential customer. Your world, your reality.
The encounter between two people is the confluence of two worlds, two realities that are often spoken to be shown and known.
Therefore, we must be kind to each other and not try to demand or impose our vision. Keep in mind that what I experienced has nothing to do with your experience.
Remember: we don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are
Dare to discover other worlds, other realities!