We tend to realize that addiction is a problem when we live it closely or when we get involved in it, when we relate it to real or potential suffering, however, is it possible to educate to avoid emotional dependence? Can we prevent toxic relationships? with education?
Human beings are dependent. We were born addicted, however, emotional dependence is a psychological condition that is a great source of discomfort for those who live it, as social beings we need, seek contact, cooperation and exchange. We meet and build, but it’s not always like this: sometimes we end up with someone and, although we understand that the relationship destroys us, we feel the need to maintain it.
- Media.
- Games.
- Useless questions.
- Folk tales.
- Traditions.
- Ill-thought out tips.
- They leave no doubt: we must establish a loving relationship to feel complete and complete.
It is no secret to anyone that we live in a society that, more or less consciously, strengthens relationships of dependence, disfiguring the final meaning of a relationship: that of sharing and adding, of wanting and not of needing. dependence only when we suffer or see the suffering of those we love.
The models and experiences we have in early childhood serve as a reference to face the world and relationships, a child who has not learned to be affectionate in a way that suits him and his environment will probably feel, as an adult, a little lost this area and will continue to try recklessly to look for it. Similarly, children who grow up with parents who know how to control, manage, and talk about their emotions are probably much more skilled in this area.
In this sense, education to avoid emotional dependence is, in addition to being healthy, possible. Wanting children to become independent adults is an unrealistic goal if this independence is not encouraged. The progressive autonomy that will be acquired will depend on their training.
Psychoanalyst John Bowlby formulated a theory of attachment to explain the emotional connection between the baby and his parents, this author argued that the style of attachment begins to form during childhood, but that this formation continues throughout life, it is clear that the kind of attachment that children establish with their reference figures will be the basis of their emotional development.
Therefore, promoting safe attachment in early childhood will be critical to avoiding the toxic relationships that addiction generates, this emotional bond will be the place where children learn that exploring the world and its complexities alone is compatible with a sense of love, trust and security.
Some guidelines for educating resilient children and avoiding emotional dependence:
Therefore, if we understand that educators are a direct example for children, the importance of having good role models is obvious, if we seek to educate children who are not emotionally dependent, it would be good to start by educating children who know, love, and value us. Maybe we should get to know each other, love each other and value each other more. Is this the right time to remember that we’re capable, we’re not half of anything?because we are complete beings. Then, from there, we can teach the difference between necessity and love. Together, we’ll be freer.
“It’s not that I want to be alone, haven’t I found someone who wants to commit to being free by my side yet?Quetzal Noah?