Seneca said that when the sun goes down, we see its greatness better. Most of us go through life always looking for “more”: to be richer, more beautiful, smarter, more loved. Thus, in this state of always wanting to have more than others, we forget that the search for greatness hides our “smallness”. In reality, enjoying the little things and doing small acts that show our courage is a sign of greatness.
This person who performs a heroic act, who fights against the oppressor, who performs great feats for others is very brave, but the person who will visit a sick friend, who comforts a crying child, who dares to return to the place where your heart is also very brave.
“Enjoy the little things, because one day you can look back and realize they were big. “
Robert Brauli-
Enegram is a technique used by psychotherapists, coaches and psychiatrists, which categorizes personality into nine different types called ereatypes, is a map of how we behave, how we are and how we relate to the way we are of others.
The nine types of entypes are: the perfectionist (angry), the helper (proud), the motivator (vanity), the different (envy), the off-hook (greed), the skeptical (fear), the enthusiast (gluttony), the dominant (lust) and the peacemaker (laziness), (in parentheses the defect of each).
The nomenclature of eneatypes varies by author, but in our case what interests us is eneatype 06 (skeptical or interrogator), because its defect is fear, but its hidden virtue is courage. Eneatotype 06 always has doubts about something because it is afraid, feels danger and cannot decide.
To be brave is to face your fears with determination and trust, knowing the risks we face, yet how can we manage fears and act like a brave person?Here are some suggestions:
When someone hurts us, we want revenge to pay for everything they’ve done to us. Every time we think of vengeance, we relive all the pain and suffering, and it becomes a vicious circle.
The cure for this pain is forgiveness. The forgiver replaces a series of destructive behaviors toward the person who has hurt him with more constructive behavior.
Forgiveness is a necessary step to quench our thirst for vengeance and free us from suffering.
Some believe that forgiveness involves not only a change in behavior, but a positive action on that person who hurt us, in fact, forgiveness is not a single action, but a process that goes through several stages that end until we reach total forgiveness.
“Forgiveness is not forgetting, but remembering without hurting yourself. “
Returning to the place where we were made to suffer is an act of bravery that may seem small, but that makes us a hero in the day to day, many times we avoid going back to the place that gives us a very intense feeling and unpleasant memories.
However, to forgive it may be necessary to go back and accept the challenge: learning to control feelings and not getting carried away by them.
How do you feel when you go back to the house where you lived with a couple who left you?At first, you’ll feel frustration, sadness, and images of the past, happy or not, will come to mind. But don’t ‘forget that we have to live and enjoy the present. Gradually erase these sad memories from your mind and build others based on your courage and forgiveness.
“Life expands or expands in proportion to the courage of the individual. “
-Anas Nin-