As human beings, we have the right to be sad, not 100 percent sad, not to smile all the time; we are entitled to a gray day. Self-help books have sold us something very different: you have to be happy, you have to be positive, and these?so authoritarian and absolutist in the end, we are worse than us.
Is it a day without a smile on a lost day?Have you read this there? Personally, I don’t think you’ll miss any days, regardless of our emotional state.
- It’s almost like saying that a day with a fever is a lost day.
- And that’s obviously not true.
- Thanks to fever humans have survived because they.
- By raising our body temperature.
- Help our defenses cope with viruses.
- Which makes us stop.
- Be sick.
Likewise, emotions, whether positive or negative, act as a powerful weapon of information, which at this moment tells us that what happens around us must be resolved if we do not want to get emotionally ill.
In psychology we know that a person needs help when their negative emotions, and sometimes even positive as euphoria, are very intense, lasting and frequent.
If a negative emotion is present every day we will not be able to live a normal life, nor act as we normally would, besides, we have noticed that it is very intense when we do not stop crying, feel bad with ourselves and world, so maybe we have fallen into the clutches of depression and have to go see a professional.
People continually seek perfectionism in everything they do, in what it is and even in their own emotions, this has been called emotional perfectionism, that is, demand, and no longer the exciting pursuit of happiness.
In the end, emotional perfectionism, far from helping us to be better, causes discomfort because it angers us because we are angry, making it even harder to get out of this spiral of suffering.
We were polite not to be boring, to please others and not to make too much noise, many times it forces us to say yes when we really mean no, to smile when we want to cry, to accept commitments even if we do not. I don’t want to go.
It is important to learn to impose limits and to give priority, even if little, to our own interests over those of others, we have perfect right to a grey day and the world will not end up spending 24 hours with half our lives. Cash.
We all have, without exception, bad days: sometimes we behave irrationally, feel strange emotions, cry and do not know why, even the most rational person is human: he also becomes angry, cries, is afraid or lives a gray day.
Blessed is the human nature that allows us to have so many emotions: crying with joy or sadness, making us tremble when we listen to our favorite music, makes us cry when at last comes the embrace we were waiting for.
Don’t feed that emotional perfectionism that says you should do it, always smiling and jumping with joy. Finally, act as your body, mind and heart command you right now, making sure all of this isn’t too intense, frequent, and lasting.
Remember: a gray day is not abnormal, the abnormal thing is never to have it. It’s also not normal to always look gray, and if so, you may need help. Quoting what a Greek philosopher said many years ago: “In the middle is virtue?