You’re doing fine. No matter what others say or what some people think of you about your choices, the things you left behind and do things your way, with passion, style, charisma?Even if you sometimes have doubts, you understand that life is a process and, as long as you have confidence in yourself, things will unfold in harmony, in tranquility.
It is this kind of thought that we often want (and partly need) to hear from someone. Needing it doesn’t mean, much less, seeking to be validated by other people or doubting yourself. Sometimes recognition, a simple positive reinforcement at the right time and at the right time, acts as an emotional affection and a vital impulse.
- For example.
- The phrase “Are you okay? It’s fundamental in a child’s personal world.
- “A compliment is actually much more than just a positive reinforcement.
- In the purest style of operational conditioning.
- It is a way to encourage the child to continue.
- To move forward.
- While nurtureing his self-esteem.
- Confidence and sense of safety.
- At the same time.
- It is also presented as an expression that focuses on the process than on the result itself.
“If you need a mother, remember that I have two. -Santo Agostinho-
And in addition to childhood, adults also need this kind of positive interaction from time to time in which, on the one hand, there is personal recognition and, on the other hand, support, for example, the mother and father who perform the complex. task of raising and raising a child day after day Does the person who at some point decides to make a change in his life and that someone in his immediate circle hesitates to say that his decision is correct, that this is an act of courage on his part?
Most of us already wear adult shoes, serve us perfectly and feel lighter than ever, yet the soles can be worn down the path already traveled, by so many stones and puddles that are on the path of life. On this path, which still has many experiences to live, there is one aspect that still affects us in many ways.
We are talking, without a doubt, about the support, consideration and closeness we receive from our own. Could we say this story that “does not affect us”, that we have already reached the point of our personal development where the words referred to by others people are like air dependents, who sometimes stay in the same room without ventilation?and they open the windows to let us go and breathe more easily, however much we want, that’s not always how it works. What our parents or siblings say sometimes we care about the comments of our friends and our partner.
That is why, sometimes, listening to one is so rewarding and confirms that this relationship, this bond, is worth a lot, that is why we are sure that throughout our lives we will have come across these three types of personal accompaniment that we are currently developing. .
Niall Bolger is a researcher in Columbia University’s Department of Psychology, specializing in personal relationship studies and their impact on our psychological well-being, in one of his papers he demonstrated that the way our nearest circle provides us with help or support can be based on three types of dynamics.
So, the best support of all is what?And that, moreover, always gives us a sense of efficiency, safety and constant support.
We know that these verbal and emotional reinforcements of your loved ones are useful in many situations and help us move forward. However, we must also remember that we must also encourage, validate, motivate ourselves, and provide us with the right emotional caresses to find that vital energy with which to face everyday life.
Therefore, it is never too difficult to think about and internalize the following phrases:
Let’s put that kind of perspective into practice. After all, it costs nothing and brings us a lot of good things.