You’re responsible for yourself. You are responsible for your actions, you assume the consequences of your actions, your words and your decisions at all times, nothing but your mind and your heart can tell you what to do, so become a free person, someone capable of building your own destiny.
Viktor Frankl said that freedom is not possible without a sense of responsibility, and it is an obvious truth that we have always forgotten, many of us see ourselves as mature and self-realized people, men and women able to achieve the goals we have set ourselves. for ourselves. However, something happens very often.
- We continue to blame others for our failures.
- Suffering.
- And discomfort.
- Sometimes our misfortune is the result of this dependency and harmful relationship (which we dare not leave).
- For example: “My insecurities and fears are due to the authoritarian education that my parents gave me (an education that I have not yet faced.
- Nor have I tried to become the person I want to be).
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We blame others for the things we have to deal with responsiblely, as psychotherapist Albert Ellis said, the best years of our lives are those in which we finally assume that the problems are ours. Nothing is our mother’s fault, the environment or politics. When a person finally realizes this, they take control of their own destiny.
Responsibility is a valuable psychological skill. It assures those who use it daily, defines people committed to themselves who act according to their values, who become fully aware of their mistakes and correct them to learn, to continue their development.
There are those who assume this principle from very early on through education or personality, however, it is also common to see people who have not yet recognized this vital skill, in fact, it is an aspect that is often explored in therapy.
An example: if there is one really complicated thing is to make the patient realize that we need to stop focusing so much on what the people around them do or not, to focus more on themselves.
“How do you do that?” Insist. My boss stresses me all the time, this is also my stepfather, this narcissistic friend and my teenage son who keeps asking me for money and does nothing at home. “As you can imagine, sometimes it is easier to concentrate on the outside, to project the guilt of our misfortune on the figures of others.
However, what are we doing to manage all these conflicts? Is our role simply a passive victim? Of course not.
Does the word responsibility come from Latin? Responsum? And it means ‘to respond to something or someone’. Also, from a psychological point of view, this competence is directly linked to a decisive sphere: engagement.
Therefore, being responsible implies learning to make decisions that achieve well-being and personal fulfillment, and, in turn, bear the consequences of actions and know how to react to what is happening around you without the need to blame others.
Nor should you expect others to solve your problems, so if there is a fundamental goal in any psychological therapy, it is to get the person involved in their own change and take responsibility, knowing how to act without fear. . It’s a complex process, no doubt, but something happens when you get to finish it: you feel free.
Abraham Maslow established a sense of responsibility as an essential dimension in the pyramid of human needs, in fact, in his book The Self-Realized Man, he established that if you develop good personal responsibility, you will be able to achieve your goals and in other words, it will reach this peak where you can feel good about your personality, your environment and what you do.
To do this, to succeed on this route, we must take into account certain aspects:
In conclusion, learning to be responsible takes time and requires constant commitment, however, once we do, the feeling of freedom is absolute.