People are not just what we see superficially: they are what makes us feel through their bright eyes, their righteous words and their loving embraces where we feel protected, they are people who exude an essential healing and emotional power, who are able to rise up. of our lethargy and sadness.
We all feel this feeling at some point in our lives: meeting someone who at first glance seems like a person?And even unsused for its apparent introversion, for its lack of courage or spontaneity. Gradually, however, we discover disconcerting nuances, colorful details and magical aspects that end up bringing a different, daring, even transformative happiness.
“It’s admirable that someone makes you feel things without touching you” – Mario Benedetti-
People are much more than the features of a face or clothing that covers their body, humans possess a unique and exceptional energy that transcends the force that invades our heart or allows our lungs to exchange gas with blood. It is these emotions that define who we are and how we relate to the world.
The way we transmit our emotions to others is a powerful channel that deserves to be cared for with love and self-known, here’s how to enjoy better quality in your interpersonal relationships.
We all convey emotional messages without realizing it, our appearance, our gestures or the way we move or look at others create an emotional microuniverse, where we don’t need words to convey concrete information, in fact, and we should always remember this, long before language development, humans used emotions as the only form of communication.
“I love you because you make me feel good, and I’m not one to get along with anyone. “
The facial expression of fear, for example, put the group on alert to danger, tears and a narrow posture indicated pain, a need that had to be satisfied; however, with the advent of more sophisticated language, this exaggerated gesture was not only reduced, but not tolerated any more. The civilized world requires the inhibition of emotions, because their instinctual expression is considered something primitive, something that is necessary? control? And hide in our private and lonely spaces?
On the other hand, studies in the field of social cognition show us something to remember: emotions are not just a mechanism of relief or personal expression, above all they are a survival mechanism, because through them?Others, we transmit information, engage it with our joy so that they feel joy, or we let them see our sadness and suffering to help us.
In this way, we set in motion the cooperative engine that allowed us to survive as a species, which shaped an almost perfect brain architecture where mirror neurons help us learn, imitate and identify the emotions of others.
However, if we choose to inhibit emotions, by not looking into the eyes of the people we talk to, or by bowing our heads when we see a colleague suffering hidden, we will be against our own evolutionary concept. loneliness will create an emotional ecology where only misfortune grows.
Interestingly, there are not many studies that tell us how this wonderful mechanism of emotional contagion works, so far what we do know is that others make us feel positive or negative emotions through what is called a “mirror” system (mirror neurons). . In this complex scenario, neurologists focus on the insula as the structure responsible for the process and internalization of the emotional states of those around us.
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a gift and not giving it away. “William Arthur Ward?
In addition, these structures are highly resistant to degenerative damage. This explains, for example, why patients with Alzheimer’s disease remain receptive to the emotional world. A touch, a hug, a gesture of love and a presence that transmits calm and affection become, in the final analysis, the only language they understand and respond to.
On the other hand, positive emotions play a very important role in education, a newborn, for example, will begin to understand the world from the feelings provoked by parents, emotions based on physical contact, in affection that comforts crying, that calms fears and satisfies all your emotional needs, ensures proper neurological development day after day.
In conclusion, positive emotions feed, bond, heal fears and build a strong bond in any stable and happy relationship, let us then learn to be creators and mediators of this altruistic affection, of this consideration based on empathy and reciprocity, where the intuition of the needs of others and the gift of affection, respect and simple joy , is part of all the situations of daily life.
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