You are so brave and determined that sometimes you forget that you too are suffering, that you have feelings and that, of course, the negative also affects your emotional balance, that you also cry when your heart breaks and breaks inside.
It is not bad that this is the case, it is not negative, the social and emotional education that has pushed us, however, forces us to reach a certain age, to hide that part of us that has already reached the limit of all strength. Then we begin to walk with an unnecessary weight, that of always being happy, because that is what we understand by being strong, decisive and courageous: being unshakable.
- But no.
- Suffering is also a way to be strong.
- Resolute.
- Courageous.
- And unwavering.
- For a simple reason.
- Because it is part of our emotional nature and it is not possible to escape it.
- Curious about how we impose ourselves on what we can show freely and what we can’t?.
Some time ago, at a conference, this phrase was said: “We must classify our emotional brain in alphabetical order. “Many viewers were concerned about this issue, partly because they were there because they felt we really needed to open our minds and educate our emotions.
The point is that we have to rethink our beliefs if assuming fear, sadness or frustration is unhealthy for us, as they have made us believe.
We assume that crying is synonymous with weakness and that, therefore, whoever has something in it that breaks is not an example of strength, freedom and unity, on the contrary, not crying means repressing our emotions and feelings, not giving them importance and wearing a mask.
Why not show our discomfort when things go wrong?, why do we have to put on a mask and hide our real reality?This leads us not to face problems or emotions, whatever the case may be, which can even lead to a worsening of the situation.
Emotional toxicity comes precisely from a lack of self-compression. It’s natural because if we stop to think that all the children in our society grew up listening to this “don’t cry, it was nothing. “feelings and thinking we should be happy?
But tears have their share. In this sense, is there any valuable section to read and reread from the book, does the rain know why?
“Let them go, Lucia?” Grandma said
“WHO?”
-Tears! Sometimes it seems like there are so many that we think we’re going to drown in it, but we’re not.
-Do you think they will one day stop falling?
-Of course!? Grandma answered with a sweet smile. Tears do not fall for long; they do their job and continue their way.
-And what’s your job?
-They are like water, Lucia. Clean and clear as rain. Is everything clearer after the rain?
Our backpack is loaded with stones large and small, however, it is good to take from time to time what we carry, to select what we want and what we do not want, to filter what is good for us and what is bad for us. We.
What is extremely heavy limits us, imprisons us and prevents us from moving forward, on the contrary, what does us good makes us lighter and faster, but when we look at the contents of our backpacks we also realize that there are things inside. us who have created and placed there, albeit unconsciously.
It is the fear of experimenting, to show you what you really are or how you feel, so that you sabotage your feelings and avoid recognizing your suffering. And then we’ll see inside our backpacks the idea that “asking for or needing help is synonymous with weakness and incompetence. “
That’s crazy! Every time we open up we become emotionally intelligent people, people with social skills and resources, so be sure to show your emotions because it gives us all a lesson in strength, no matter your age and everything you’ve faced in your life.